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2.5 DS says NO to potty training :( HELP!!

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Mamabear12 · 17/07/2016 08:00

My DS nursery has said I should begin potty training soon. My concern is he is not interested at all! He screams when I try to put him On toilet saying he is scared. I let him pick out a car potty and he sat on it once but has no interest to try. Twice we got him to try and pee in garden when he was in pool naked. But he didn't actually wee. But at least he attempted to try. He is slightly difficult child. Easy to tantrum. Can be very sweet. But he tells me no he does not want to go potty. I even bought books that we read together. Even said if he goes potty he gets big present. But no, he doesn't want to try at all! Have any of you had this? My DD potty trained at 2.5 and was a dream! Happy to try straight away. Basically was potty trained from the start. Had maybe 3 accidents total in the first month of training! And that was my fault not realising you need to remind them and put them on toilet. I was waiting for her to tell me lol. Anyway, what do I do w my son??!

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PotteringAlong · 17/07/2016 08:03

If he's not ready you just leave it for a bit.

Gardencentregroupie · 17/07/2016 08:04

Give it a few months and go back to it. If he's highly resistant and not ready then it's just going to be a shit and piss riddled disaster.

Why is the nursery so keen to have him toilet trained? Are you in the UK? I guarantee they won't be keen on changing wet and dirty pants and trousers 6+ times a day.

ohidoliketobe · 17/07/2016 08:05

He's not ready. Try again in a few weeks.

WellErrr · 17/07/2016 08:06

Just leave it. They're all ready at different times.

The more you push it the more he'll resist.

Xmasbaby11 · 17/07/2016 08:07

He doesn't sound ready. My dd2 is 2.5 and she's not ready - gets upset if I suggest potty. I don't see any rush so will do it later.

Dd1 was 3.4 when she potty trained which seemed very late compared to others but she wasn't ready. I don't honestly see it as a big deal.

RoseDeGambrinus · 17/07/2016 08:08

Many many children are difficult to potty train! You were just lucky first time round. Nursery may be able to help get him more positive about it if he sees his small friends on the potty or toilet. But don't force it, wait and try again.

Schoolchauffeur · 17/07/2016 08:09

You do nothing at this stage.My DD was like yours- trained a dream at 2.5 because she wanted to. She saw other older girls in knickers and wanted them!
DS was 3 and he went from apparently having no clue one day to being dry day and night within about three days. The reason? Because when he turned 3 he could move up into the big room at nursery - until he was mostly trained he had to stay in the group below! Lasted 2 days and when I went to pick him up on day 3 there he was in the next group up showing me his borrowed Bob the Builder pants! Point being he was ready and able to control himself.

Itsaplayonwords · 17/07/2016 08:13

I'd agree with others that he's not ready now. But I'd leave the potty in the bathroom. We tried to potty train DD a couple of months ago and she sat on the potty okay at first but then she started hating it. We decided to leave it then but we left the potty out and every now and again she'd sit on it. A week and a half ago she decided she wanted to sit on the potty, didn't want nappies and wanted to wear knickers. Its now been a week with no accidents. I can't claim any responsibility for it - she decided when she was ready and in effect potty trained herself. I think she had seen the other children at nursery using potty's and it made her want to do the same.

Cliffdiver · 17/07/2016 08:13

I agree with not pushing it until he's more comfortable with the idea.

DD1 was late - not trained until 2.9 but she picked it up very quickly and was also dry at night within a month.

You usually know when they're ready.

Muskateersmummy · 17/07/2016 08:16

I agree too. At 2.5 I would just leave it for a couple of months. We tried at around this age, it was a nightmare. She just withheld poo's for 3 days and couldn't grasp the idea off the potty at all. We left it and tried again a couple of months later and she was dry within a few days. Take a step back it's absolutely fine.

I would be interested in why nursery think he should be potty training ?

BikeRunSki · 17/07/2016 08:20

If he's not ready then he's not ready. Save everybody a load of stress and wait until he is. He may even tell you. We had a disastrous weekend with DS at 2.7, but having planted the seed, we asked for pants about 2 weeks later and was dry for wees and poos, night and day, 2 weeks after that. DD took us all by surprise and asked for pants at 2.3, then mastered everything in 48 hours. Readyness is the key.

Mamabear12 · 17/07/2016 08:38

Thanks for all the feedback! I will wait a couple months I think and bring it up, but will leave potty in bathroom just in case he decides. The nursery seems keen to get everyone trained not sure exactly why. But he can't move to next class until trained. My daughter went to same nursery and I only trained her when I did bc they said she was ready. I now hear my kids downstairs and my daughter saying DS wants to go potty and take off his diaper. Let me go investigate!

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insancerre · 17/07/2016 08:48

If you are in England then they can't keep him behind because he is not potty trained
Don't be pressured by the nursery. If he's not ready, then he's just not ready

elQuintoConyo · 17/07/2016 08:52

Controlling bastards! It is a big step physically and psychologically, not something you can just do on a whim.

Good luck!

Mamabear12 · 17/07/2016 09:06

My daughter got him to at least try the potty! So that's a step in right direction. But no wee came out yet and now he wants to walk around the house w no diaper 😳 I left potty in hall so he can see it. Will see what happens.

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Itsaplayonwords · 17/07/2016 09:58

I think you may have found your answer - get DD to train him!

Mamabear12 · 17/07/2016 16:01

Lol. He does listen to her sometimes. She is 4 though lol. But she does try and encourage. He actually sat on potty and tried. But he didn't need a wee. I let him run around for a bit w out diaper. Then we put back on. As he screamed when I tried to put underpants on him. I think perhaps if my daughter helps it along. I will try in August and see if that works. But if he scream and has a fit when putting underpants on what do I do? Let him wear nothing?

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Itsaplayonwords · 17/07/2016 18:12

Yeah, I'd say let him wear nothing if he kicks up a fuss about wearing pants. The last thing you want to do is give him a negative association with any part of potty training. Did he help choose his pants? They said involving them in buying "big boy pants" helps. My daughter chose some Peppa Pig knickers and she couldn't wait to wear them.

T0ddlerSlave · 18/07/2016 22:09

Is it worth doing nice things while he's on the potty in the meantime like reading books, tv and snacks?

TeenAndTween · 19/07/2016 18:19

Can you sit him on it at set times of the day, no pressure to perform, just to get used to it. e.g. At every nappy change and before and after bath and 15mins whilst watching TV once a day? Make a big fuss if he accidentally does something but otherwise no mention at all.

2nds · 19/07/2016 18:21

I'm going to try the doll method with my DD's fave Teddy bear. Would that work for you?

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