DD is 2.4. For the first year she was clingy with me, and would always seek me out over DH.
I went back to work last February, and DH has done the majority of the childcare since. I work a 2.5 hour commute away - so 2 days a week he does mornings, nursery drop off and bedtimes. One other day I work from home, and the other working day DH has her all day. I have the weekends and one weekday with her (and DH).
DH is a brilliant father, very affectionate, considerate etc. He's more lenient than I am.
For the last 4 months dd has increasingly preferred my DH. At first it was small things, like bedtime. Which I can understand in terms of routine as DH does bedtime 4/7.
But recently she's actively pushed me away. E.g. cuddles on the sofa are with DH. This morning she had a tantrum because I was going to take her downstairs for breakfast. She'll tell me to go away, cry if DH leaves the room.
I find this really upsetting. I don't think I'm a bad parent: I give her cuddles, play and read with her 1-1, I am gentle but set clear boundaries, I'm the one that does crafts etc with her.
DH is being clear with her that it's not ok to push me away, and in the last week has been more proactive at encouraging her to let me do things like bath time.
This situation is really upsetting me. I'd welcome practical steps to help reconnect with her. I'm happy for her to love her daddy this much, but I wish it wasn't accompanied by her pushing me away.
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SouthDownsSunshine · 24/05/2016 19:09
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