How can I get my daughter to slow down?

(12 Posts)
BabyMonkeyMummy Tue 17-May-16 08:46:24

She's 2 years old and she tries to do everything at 100 miles per hour. I know it's probably pretty standard for her age but she runs into things and trips over things because she's trying to do everything too quickly and it makes her clumsy and boisterous. She's worse when she's tired. I just want to teach her a bit of patience, everything has to be done right now, even when she's asking for something she'll ask again and again and again until she gets it - "Read a book...Read a book...Read a book...Read a book". I try not to pander to her and tell her that I've heard her and I'm just doing x,y,z and then we will read a book. For a little while that seemed to register but now she doesn't seem to pay attention. She's so full of energy and enthusiasm for everything and I wouldn't want to dampen that but at the same time it's just not possible, or indeed healthy, to give her what she wants right away. Does anyone have any tips to help her be a little more rational?

PumpkinPie2013 Tue 17-May-16 18:45:26

Hi,

I haven't much advice (sorry!) but wanted to let you know that you're not alone!

I have a 2 year old son who sounds just like your daughter!grin

Ot is absolutely constant from the minute he wakes up to the minute he goes to bed. He's so busy constantly and seems to get bored easily so needs amusing.

Does your daughter go to nursery? My ds does because I work but he loves it and gets so much stimulation there - could you consider this even just one day a week?

Otherwise, I find going out to the park/soft play/library/in the garden far easier than being indoors so at weekend I tend to be out as much as possible.

It os tiring though!

purpleme12 Tue 17-May-16 19:40:48

To be honest it's just a case of waiting. She'll get better it's a case of her gaining maturity it'll happen almost overnight

BabyMonkeyMummy Tue 17-May-16 20:08:49

I hope so purple! Like I say, I love that she has so much enthusiasm and curiosity for things, I just wish she could do it at a slightly slower pace!

It's good to know I'm not alone Pumpkin! Although I'm sure you'll agree it's better to know they will grow out of it! My daughter does go to nursery - she used to go one day a week but she's recently gone up to 2 days a week as I'm pregnant and been told to restrict my activity. I think that might be a part of it - for a while I was told I shouldn't lift her and, although I now can, I can't really take her out on my own because I can't drive and I've been told not to push the buggy. With that said, because I wasn't allowed to do so much we made adjustments - the extra day at nursery and family helping out - so it's actually only 1 morning in the week that its just me and her (which also makes me sad sad) but in that one morning it's a much slower pace to the rest of the week and I think she finds that a challenge. She's like an excited little puppy who doesn't understand why she's not going out! She even brings me her coat and shoes! It'll be a whole other ball game when the baby's here and I know it will throw up a whole set of other challenges but I really hope she settles down a bit before then, if not I've no idea how I'll keep up with her!

FructoseTart Tue 17-May-16 20:12:12

I have a 3.5 yo daughter who sounds just like yours!
She's been like it since she was 2.
She's recently been given glasses and has somewhat calmed down a lot. Probably sheer coincidence, but I was told that if they can't see properly they get frustrated and behave worse...

BabyMonkeyMummy Tue 17-May-16 20:22:35

That's interesting Fructose. How did you know your daughter needed glasses? Did you suspect that she was having problems with her vision? Or was it just something that was picked up at a routine appointment?

FructoseTart Tue 17-May-16 21:30:23

She has been having appointments since she was 8 weeks old (white reflex rather than red) which corrected itself at the age of 18 months ish. This lead to the discovery of her being massively short sighted and has an astigmatism.
They were hoping it would correct itself but it's got worse so have gone down the glasses route.

I was told by a friend that her son had the same and his behaviour changed once he could see with his glasses. It's worked the same for DD too.

May be worth popping to an optician and express concern about tripping over and running into everything (DD had so many bruises over the last 2 years!)

BabyMonkeyMummy Tue 17-May-16 22:30:22

Definitely seems like it could be worth mentioning. She was a premature baby and had eye exams when she was in NICU but that was to look specifically for retinopathy of prematurity (vision loss as a result of prolonged oxygen treatment), beyond that no one's ever checked her eyes. She still sees the paediatric consultant and we're currently waiting for a new appointment through the post so it could be worth mentioning to her as we're going anyway.

I did post a while back about her being clumsy but came to the conclusion that she just takes after her father - ironically as I was typing the post about her clumsiness he managed to throw his phone across the room from a stationary position!

FructoseTart Tue 17-May-16 22:55:03

That's quite a talent.
I did the very same as you, DP is extremely clumsy and will trip over his own feet. However since DD has had the glasses we've had no bumps or running into things. Also her glasses are quite strong, I'm surprised she hasn't hurt herself quite badly without them

BabyMonkeyMummy Tue 17-May-16 23:18:52

I'll definitely mention it at the next appointment. It can't hurt to get her eye sight checked. How's your daughter getting on with her glasses? I can imagine it could be a bit of a battle at first but hopefully once she realised how much they help she's happy to wear them.

FructoseTart Fri 20-May-16 09:20:47

She has been fine, I imagined myself running round after her putting them back on constantly but she keeps them on. I think it's probably because she can actually see everything that makes her leave them on

corythatwas Fri 20-May-16 11:55:11

I had one like that: has now morphed into your stereotypical lazy teenager who lazes in his room and thinks everything is too much eeeeffort. grin

(unfortunately that involves changing his bedding and bringing his coffee cups down)

The clumsiness turned out to be about poor proprioception, related to hypermobility.

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