I have a 2 year old and a 12 week old. My MIL has come over 3 times in the last couple of months to 'help' me in caring for them. Quite frankly don't find her that helpful, I end up waiting on her with food and cups of tea but that's a separate issue. My 2 year old is a lively, high spirited child and I happened to mention to MIL that I'd had a particularly difficult few days with LO with lots of tantrums etc. Difficult time had coincided with DP working extra long hours and being stressed and 12 week old being more difficult to get down for naps so I felt 2yr old was struggling with reduced attention from me. The next day MIL text, she needed to speak as needed to talk to me about 2yr old. She felt I needed to think more laterally about my approach, to avoid power struggles and not be so 'combative'!! Also dropped round a book on gentle discipline. AIBU to feel a little offended and judged? To put into context most people (family and friends) tell me I'm very gentle, even DP thinks I spend too long thinking laterally to persuade toddler to do what I expect, he's much quicker to lay down law. I do employ several gentle tactics, which I've got from books, mums net etc. I do choose my battles, you can't live with a 2yr old without learning to choose battles carefully. Im not a hot headed person at all. I have lost my temper with LO a couple of times recently as she has taken to kicking and thrashing when im changing her poo filled nappy. After trying to rationalise with toddler i did regretably end up shouting at them as poo getting smeared everywhere. Felt guilty for shouting afterwards. Feel im doing my best juggling 2 kids, little sleep and DP being stressed and working more. More context I have felt criticised and judged in the past by MIL for things like not breastfeeding my 2yr old for longer ( I stopped at 15 months, MIL practiced extended BF with her children till 3+), not co-sleeping etc. I guess we do have different parenting styles and beliefs which is fine. Can't help feeling a little offended, like she'said saying I could do better but maybe she'said just being helpful and I should stop being so sensitive??
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AIBU to find MIL comments annoying and critical
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Macdaddylonglegs · 10/05/2016 15:23
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