SAHM/D I need your advice.

[sugarplumfairy28]

DH and I have had a rough few years which has meant we've had to put off baby number 3, not relationship stuff, just jobs and moving stuff. We agreed that once DH got a new job (he was made redundant) that we would finally start trying for baby number 3. That hasn't been as simple as we thought and work has been thin on the ground.

DH has had a job offer, which he has to take, because well, he needs a job! Problem is it's a 3 hour commute away. He will have to leave before the children get up and won't be back until their in bed, so he will become a weekend dad basically. As it is I'm worried about being able to cope with the 2 we already have. Both of them have a lot of spirit shall we say, I like routine and being busy but I'm still worried about being constantly tired.

Obviously a newborn is a LOT of work, DC would be at least 8 and nearly 6, so play time and small helping Mummy tasks might help. Does anyone have this sort of situation? Is it a happy set up, do you make it work? Am I over thinking it, or am I right in thinking I might end up too stressed?

[holeinmyheart]

I had approximately the same age gap between my eldest two. I don't think things were as bad with the next one as I was an experienced Mum.
When they cried I didn't get so worked up. I relaxed really.
However it is hard work and you are getting your life back. As your Dh won't be there in the week at least you can get into your own routine. The eldest two will be at school as well.
Are your two the same sex as they will play together?

[sugarplumfairy28]

We actually live in Germany, but my German is still appauling so still rely on Mumsnet. We have DS who is 7 and DD who is nearly 5. They do play but not always agreeably. DS is at school and DD is still at Kindergarten, will go to school August 2017. - they basically start school 2 years later here.

[holeinmyheart]

I am glad that I didn't stop at two, myself. Now they are grown up they are such truly lovely human beings and they love each other. Yes it must have been hard work for me but I don't think I thought of it. I just got on with it,
I love children and it is fascinating seeing them develop.

It makes me feel very anxious for the children when I read Mumsnetters moaning and complaining about their DCs, for behaviour that is natural, because they are children.
However, only you can decide how you feel.
Best of luck.