I'd be grateful for some parenting advice please!
DD has just turned 7. She's a very loving, tactile and caring child but also very prone to cheekiness (much answering back) manipulation (well conditioned too - very angelic looking so has been put on pedastal by the older generation of my family despite my warnings), stubbornness and laziness.
She is the youngest of 3 girls and much older DD lives away but is a fabulous role model in every way, middle DD is 9 and quieter than DD(3). They squabble. A lot.
I am setting targets for both at the moment and need to know if I'm being unrealistic. These are the targets for DD3.
- Properly make bed every morning.
- To get dressed without complaining and without dawdling (I have to ask several times).
- Hang her clothes/try to fold tidily instead of leaving them where they fall, stuffed into drawers or on radiator).
- Keep bedroom tidy.
- Be respectful to all, no cheek, kindness shown at all times.
I don't really know how to rewards/withdraw treats - she goes to a Gym club and swims every week, has no gadgets (although adores her Dads iPad), we don't have many friends over (I feel guilty about this - everyone else seems more sociable). Withdrawing fitness isn't what I want to do so I don't know how to reward/withdraw stuff.
Can someone point me in the right direction please. I don't want to squash the spirit in my feisty 7 year old but I do want to reinforce that she is indeed 7 and not 17!