DS is seven and a half.and has developed a terrible attitude.
According to him, everyone gets to do everything and he doesn't. I know that some of this behavior is normal, of course, and something most kids do. :) However he's been taking it to extremes and it's been ruining our weekends, to be honest. We can't plan fun days out because they inevitably end in some sort of meltdown from him. I feel like I'm constantly arguing with him, even when I try not to engage.
This constant (and it does feel constant) "it's not fair " is really getting to me and definitely getting to DH.
It doesn't matter what it is, DS compares it to his own life and suffers in comparison. We have an iPad (well it is DH's from work, but it basically lives at our house) and DS is allowed to use it. But some of his classmates have their own iPad and this isn't fair, apparently. He had a meltdown this morning because his little sister was watching Curious George on my phone and he wanted to use it. He had tears over this and slammed my door and the stairgate.
He was emptying out a box of blocks to play with and I said "when you are done, you will have to pick those up yourself without any whining" and he agreed and then played with them for awhile. When it was time to clean them up he was in tears because no one would help him and it wasn't fair and we're so mean. Again, he is SEVEN AND A HALF.
Last weekend he had what can only be described as a tantrum (tears, flinging himself around) because my cousin (who is nine) went to FL and got to go to Disney and Harry Potter World. (They don't.live near us but he saw the pictures on FB.)
We are planning to take this same trip in a few years. We don't have the money to go now and we also want toddler DD to be a little older, plus I am pregnant and don't fancy going with a tiny infant. I do understand that it's hard to see people do fun things (we never had any holidays as a kid so I do get it) but surely having a tantrum at seven and a half because you don't get to go to Florida is verging on spoiled brat territory?
We have tried what feels like everything...lots of praise, charts, being strict, ignoring, etc. But the negative attitude persists. I worry for him if he can't change it. I know people who always feel hard done by and they seem to have very unhappy lives. I don't want that for him. He is lovely in a lot of ways...he's funny and clever, and his teacher says he is kind and friendly to everyone.
It really irritates me when he talks about how hard his life is. I am obviously not going to talk to him about graphic child.abuse or anything like that, but do any of you have any resources to help me explain that some people in the world have real problems, and not having their very own iPad isn't one of them? I really don't want him to grow up with this spoiled attitude.
Thanks for listening.
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Age appropriate ways to show my son that his life is not terrible?
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CheerfulYank · 28/02/2015 21:29
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