I'd love some help or insight into this. My own mother was amazingly pushy towards me as a child. I have actually done v well academically but have always felt "not good enough". I now have a 3yo DS, and much as I try hard not to replicate my mother's pushiness, I find it difficult.
For example, DS doesn't draw much beyond mono-coloured scribbles. I have tried to encourage him to draw shapes or people or anything colourful, really, but he just says "I can't" and he's starting to seem sad about it. I fear I'm putting him off drawing at all by putting pressure on him. I don't even know why I'm doing it as I honestly don't think it matters when he learns to draw a circle, or write his name, or count to 100, or whatever, but I guess I feel like a failure if he isn't doing these things. It doesn't help that my mother is constantly telling me, "of course, at his age you could...read chapter books/write stories/draw recognisable portraits" etc.
Any tips on how to relax and make these things fun for him, without any pressure? Or tips to avoid turning into my mother?!
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Avoiding being pushy and/or critical towards 3yo DS
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Poofus · 24/11/2014 11:49
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