I've told DH that we can ttc for 6 months but not sure I really want a DC2. DS1 is nearly 2. I'm swinging from being really excited at thought of potential new pregnancy to being really worried about it. I'm mid 30s with fertility issues so it's really now or never.
Pros:
DH really, really wants another baby (and has mentioned it everyday for months)
I loved being pregnant and feel a bit sad at the thought of not doing it again
We had a great summer holiday hiring a big house with 3 other families with 5 preschoolers. I think DS had the best week of his life. It'd be nice for him to have a close sibling.
I would love another year of mat leave. I like being home with kids, play dates, toddler groups, etc.
Cons:
Next pregnancy/ recovery from c-section may be a lot harder than first and I'd also have a toddler to look after. I'm not sure I'd cope.
Also not sure I could cope with toddler and a baby on my own full-time (DS works away every week)
I grew up without siblings and never suffered. DC might end up fighting all the time.
We never seem to have any money despite high household income (mainly from DS). I really want to quit my very stressful and not especially well-paid job and do something for a lower salary but more enjoyable. I don't think I could afford to if we have another child.
It sounds shallow but I'm worried about what a second pregnancy would do to my body. Apart from CS scar and a slightly wobblier belly I look the same as I did before DS but I'm older now.
Sorry this is really long. I don't want to talk to anyone in rl about it and just need to get it straight in my head. If anyone's got through reading all that and has been in a similar position or has any advice I'd love to hear it.
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Siennasun · 24/09/2014 22:03
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