So, we had our 8 month contact group today (DS is only 7 months, but ho-hum). I wasn't going to bother going, TBH, but a friend went to hers recently and said it was really useful, so I thought I'd give it a go. I'm a but dubious about a lot that was said and I'd like some other opinions please!
- Language - I must not say "doggie" or "pussy cat", as apparently this will delay DS' language skills and it will be "almost impossible to get him to use the correct words". I must always say "Dog" or "Cat". Is it so terrible for a young child to say doggie? Should I also stop calling myself Mummy, and go for Mum (or even Mother) instead?
- Sleep - DS does not sleep through the night - he usually wakes 3 times per night. Apparently this is A Terrible Thing. HV said that "all 6 month old babies should sleep through the night from 12 midnight - 5am". I then said that in that case he's only waking once as he wakes at 9pm, 12 midnight and 3am. He takes full feeds at each waking. I'm pretty sure it's because he doesn't take enough milk during the day (he's getting seriously bad at nursing during the day - too easily distracted). HV said I'm "allowed" to continue with the 9pm feed, but should only offer water at the midnight and 3am wakings. She continued to say that I should offer more protein with his evening meal, and cut out carbs after 12 noon. If this doesn't stop the night time feeds, I must let him CIO. I must do CIO very soon because...
- Apparently 8-month old babies can not remember anything that happened more than 3 days ago. By 12 months memory improves to 2 weeks. Therefore if I do CIO now, he will stop waking up after 3 nights, because he won't remember being fed in the night any more. If this is true, surely he will only remember that bed = crying. How is that helpful? And will he forget my DH who is working away Mon-Fri at the moment? How come he remembers cues from his swimming lessons even though we don't practice them throughout the week?
- Food - I'm apparently not feeding him enough solids. We were given a chart showing portion sizes split by food type. I won't list the whole thing here but as an example, this is what I should be giving my DS every day:
Protein - 1 egg
Dairy - 3 dice size pieces of cheese (and no more than 1 pint of milk / formula per day)
Fruit - half an apple
Fatty Foods - small piece of cake (every day? Really?)
Carbs - half a slice of bread
Veg - 1 tablespoon of any veg.
I'm a bit about some of the quantities, I don't think DS could manage a whole egg or half an apple TBH. It would never occur to me to give him cake every day. She also said it doesn't matter if he doesn't take much milk so long as I can fill him up with solids.
I'm very willing to be proven wrong on any of this (especially food as I suspect I don't feed him enough actually). Thanks to anybody who's managed to read this far!