Although very loving, my childminder has a different attitude to food to me. I feel like I keep having to ask her to do/not do things and it makes me uncomfortable.
What do you all think about rewarding good behaviour with food? (like biscuits etc - junk food). Am I over reacting?
The first time she did it, she got dd a biscuit for putting her coat on without a fuss - I was so taken aback that I didn't react at the time. (IMO putting a coat on without fuss is baseline good behaviour anyway, not something that deserves a special reward). Then yesterday it turns out that she got a reward of a chocolate milk for waiting patiently at the doctors. What do you all reckon to this?? The thing is that I don't give dd things like chocolate or biscuits generally - she has a bit if we are eating something like that in front of her, but we rarely do.
I asked her not to reward good behaviour with food as I feel it fetishises junk food and makes it extra extra special for dd. I also don't want her to associate food with approval and love. I also think that it is completely unnecesary to reward her in that way as she would have been just as happy with a special trip to the swings. But when I said these things she was looking at me like I was from outer space. I could see she really didn't get it, although she said she was happy to do as I asked.
I felt such a middle class meanie mum that I was asking myself afterwards if I was making a fuss out of nothing.
I have then started to think, that may I am the one who might pass on issues with food to dd??
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rubles · 13/06/2006 11:54
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