I have been lurking and reading for a good long while now and finally decided I would post a question. I have read over and over that it is impossible to be the perfect mum and all that you need to achieve is being a "good enough mum". I am thinking that the obvious things like
Food and water
Warmth and shelter
Non abusive environment come under this title but wonder where the line is eg:
Is giving your child 30-60 minutes one on one a day good enough?, Is giving your child a diet that sometimes includes crisps and soda good enough?
What I want to ask is what are your personal standards in order to feel good enough?
For me if at the end of the day I can say yes to the following then I feel that I am doing good enough not to scar my son for life...
#Have told him at least one thing he is doing well
#Have spent some one on one time doing what he wants to do
#Have tried my best to keep him feed and watered
#Have showed/ or told him that he is loved
Many days I do things orientated around me instead of around him, I dont always offer challenging and interesting things for him to do and he at times gets frustrated and bored. I work part time just for me not because I have to or we need the money but because I need to have space from him and adult time etc etc.
I sometimes look on here and think maybe I am not doing good enough, maybe my idea of good enough is wrong, there seems to be so many people on here that manage so much more and seem to be able to read their children so well and respond so appropriately and only ever have time to themselves when their child is asleep.
So I ask you what are your standards and are mine terribly lapse and neglectful?
Logan is 15mths.
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what constitutes a good enough mum?
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Logansmum · 10/06/2006 09:18
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