My 3yo, is, on the whole a really good sleeper, but lately he's been waking up a lot in the night, complaining about scary dreams.
My OH has started getting up in the night to deal with him, which after one go at settling him down usually involves telling him not to be so noisy and generally telling him off. Usually he's better at getting him to settle than I am.
Last night was really bad though - he was awake crying for me for hours, saying he was scared and OH just kept going and administering bollockings.
It was really upsetting me - to the point that I started crying, but didn't want to undermine OH, who maintains that me going in to DS's room is a reward and he 'takes the piss'.
I just felt really sorry for the poor little guy. He was clearly frightened, we all had a crap night's sleep. I'd have much preferred to go and give cuddles, maybe lose a couple of hours sleep but we'd all be happier.
OH thinks this will make DS more likely to wake in the night and that basically I will be DS's nighttime bitch for ever.
I don't see having scary dreams as being a disciplinary / behaviour issue. In my opinion, it's not naughty for a 3 year old to wake up in the night wanting a cuddle. It might not be the behaviour you want, long term, but it's not a telling-off offence.
OH and I are at odds over this. We try to work as a team and be consistent, but I just think he's going about this the wrong way.
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Bad dreams and a clash of parenting styles
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Queenoftheharpies · 28/01/2013 12:46
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