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cuntingrimmer08 · 19/11/2012 09:15

Hey all bit of advice needed . Two week dd cries when I put her in her Moses basket . We've only just come out of hospital due to her jaundice , how much if this might be new a surroundings or not liking her basket ? Just asking as I cannot keep holding her as I would like some sleep! any advice gratefully received

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bangersmashandbeans · 19/11/2012 09:22

My DD went through this as well and it's really hard work. We tried all the tips eg put something you've been wearing there, warm the mattress up with a hot water bottle, keep your hand on her when you lay her down etc etc but nothing really seemed to work very well other than swaddling and perseverance. It got better over time (can't remember how long, not very I don't think but felt like ages at the time!)

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Fairylea · 19/11/2012 09:24

Swaddling was the only thing that enabled me to.put ds down when he was a newborn. It saved my sanity! I used muslin squares from eBay as they didn't make him too hot.

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mummysmellsofsick · 19/11/2012 09:27

Many babies don't like sleeping alone. Some parents sleep train, we decided to co sleep and let him nap on us/ in a sling in the day. Like you I thought before he was born that babies go in cots. From what I've seen very few actually like to sleep without direct physical contact with one of their parents. Having read a bit about it I came to realise it's a very obvious evolutionary strategy- ie cave babies who kept close to their parents were more likely to stay warm, safe & fed and therefore more likely to survive.

Many mumsnetters will be able to advise you if you don't want to do what we did.

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cuntingrimmer08 · 19/11/2012 09:27

Some good tips so far will Definately try swaddling

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KatyJ26 · 19/11/2012 09:28

Some babies just don't like being laid down. It's not the Moses basket per se, it's the lying down... all 3 of mine were like it- get yourself a good sling to put her in when you need to get stuff done and let her sleep on you in the day- make the most of the cuddles! It will get better as she gets older and becomes more used to her surroundings. Congratulations!

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Pascha · 19/11/2012 09:29

I think that many if not most newborns hate being put down in a basket or crib. My son never stayed longer than 10 minutes in his basket. He only started to relax in the bedside crib at about 6 weeks. It does improve, honestly, but I never found a cure-all for it, just DH and I being on duty for half the night each.

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NotQuiteCockney · 19/11/2012 09:30

You know you don't have wolves in your house - but your daughter doesn't know that! As far as she's concerned, lying down on her own isn't safe - being in your arms, or next to you, is much safer.

They do grow out of this ...

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cuntingrimmer08 · 19/11/2012 09:33

Have ordered a sling for in the day as she does like my and my husbands warmth .

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mummysmellsofsick · 19/11/2012 09:44

It's amazing isn't it how Moses baskets are the thing we all think we have to have, and then either they sit and gather dust in the corner like our three still unused cots/cribs etc or you begin what seems like an epic battle of wills with the baby and spend all day and most of the night trying to coax baby into the cot.

Why don't people tell you about this?!! What you really need is a huge bed to all sleep together and a very good sling. Although I know many people don't like co sleeping, it makes life soooo much simpler.

Cots are a recent invention and the 'science' behind them was quite mad.

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mummysmellsofsick · 19/11/2012 09:46

cuntin what sling did you order? Some are much more comfortable than others. Don't do what we did and get a baby bjorn they hang all the weight off your shoulders

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cuntingrimmer08 · 19/11/2012 09:56

I ordered a better baby sling , heard bad things about the bjorn in here ! The moby looked interesting , any experience with that one ?

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mummysmellsofsick · 19/11/2012 09:59

No I've got a beco which I still use all the time (DS is an enormous 1yo) I've heard moby is v good though

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Newmummy12 · 19/11/2012 10:51

My newborn hated his noses basket so he slept on my chest safely for about 4 days then I decided no he has to get used to his basket so I used to make a hot water bottle warm his basket up with that and take it out just befor he went init I do t this through his feeds in the night aswell I also used to put a pillow on the basket and he was fine with that also. Now he is out of it and in his cot bed and he's had no problems :-) hope your little one likes his basket soon.

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Startail · 19/11/2012 11:13

Warm mattress,
DH used to use the hair drier on our crib just as I finished BFing DD2,

Hot water bottle, putting sheet over radiator, or simply sitting on it while feeding are also reported to work.

Totally depends on whether you want sheet tucked in basket or to swaddle baby.

DD went crazy if you swaddled her, it scared her. Lots of babies love it.

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cuntingrimmer08 · 19/11/2012 13:48

I have done the hot water bottle and having a tshirt that smells like me and swaddling and put her in the basket , fingers crossed shed been in it for neatly an hour ! I know it might not last but I really appreciate all the advice , bit she'll shocked at the mo as she is 6 weeks early !

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scepticalexpat · 19/11/2012 16:22

We too found out that our baby wouldn't sleep in the Moses basket, but didn't want to co-sleep all three in one bed. We ended up getting an Arms Reach co-sleeper cot, which attaches to the bed, and I used to get her to sleep (and often fall asleep myself) with my hand on her.

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41notTrendy · 19/11/2012 16:30

Ds hated his Moses basket. He settled much better in the carry cot from the pram. I think he felt more secure. Every time he moved in the Moses basket it squeaked and wobbled!!

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41notTrendy · 19/11/2012 16:31

We also did a lot of co-sleeping.

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Sparklesandglitter · 19/11/2012 23:32

My DD was like this we found putting the mattress on an incline helped (she has reflux) I also tried a hot water bottle. I never co-sleep, DD is 12 weeks I can't remember exactly what worked but certainly for my DD when we started sleep training at 6weeks she settled better. Dark room that's quiet. I think it is very common she went from fast asleep to wide awake in a second when she was born! Also, try a rocking stand, if you put your DC feet to foot this will raise the head anyway. Hope it helps, I also found sleeping slightly on her side helped my DD. there are safe ways to do this your HV can advise. Good luck it gets easier (and then they start teething!lol)

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