I still worry excessively about my adult daughter.

[Boardiegirl]

I know its not normal. Shes getting married in March, they wil hav known each other for 14months by then, he moved in after a month. But shes starting to say he has a rly bad temper...no no he hasnt hit or threatened her but she sez he goes from normal to enraged in 60seconds, has a foul mouth at those times and throws things in temper. Also shes concerned that, altho he had rly gd wages this month, he didnt put any towards their honeymoon savings...shes paid for the honeymoon itself. He says hes frittered the money away. He also had a £62 fone bill he sed. She admits to being a bit paranoid due to a cheating ex-ex but is worried bout where his money is going...
We are paying for the wedding and now my DH is getting concerned too, are they making a big mistake or am I worrying far too much? I dnt have anyone to talk to in person, onlyy DH who just gets annoyed with both me and our DD. shes 28 by the way, not a kid. Please give me your advice.

[luckysocks]

That sounds really worrying for you.

What's her perspective when she talks about him - does she sound worried/upset? Is she excited about marrying this man or mostly worried and paranoid?

[TheBirdsTheBirds]

He doesn't sound very nice and it sounds like shes only just getting to see the real him, so it's a shame they're getting married so quickly. I don't think you're wrong to be worried but all you can do is be there for her and be unjudgemental so she knows she always has you if things do go wrong in future.

[LadyDianaSpencer]

I would be worried too. You could post in Relationships about this, you might get more replies. No one wants to see their child married to someone with a temper.

[Boardiegirl]

Thanks guys x