I use to think Social services were a good thing,didn't believe the hype about turning up to 'grill' good ,caring parents and putting the family unit under lots of stress for no real reason...how very wrong I was.
I am disabled but manage very well have 2 grown up children 1 that works the other due to go to uni dispite being having ASD I also have a younger son who is 9 also has ASD,not bowel trained has some hypermobile joints,gets back pain,wears legs splints but is a very clever happy little boy.My husband works full time but is very supportive and although I haven't got a family network things generally are busy and everyone is fed ,loved and cared for and if anybody igets left out it is me.
After xmas I felt a bit stressed,i was having probs sleeping my fits were worses and my health was generally worse and I just felt a little low and wasn't as perky as usual so I popped to my brill GP, who said I was a trooper and I was stressed and I worked miracles in my household and suggested some 1to1 councilling so i had some ME TIME....yep sounded ok,id give it a go...4 months went by no councilling felt more stressed,son's school were sending him home covered in poo single everyday,blisters on his feet at least once a week was getting me down all constant keeping on top.So I was reffered to a more intense councilling team who thought constant battles at school were not helping and on grounds of sons DISABILITY not because he was at risk and with my consent suggested that they make a refferal to social services for our son to support me and family unit...it was turned down THERE WAS NO ROLE IN THERE DEPARTMENT ,was NO RISK and we were managing things as parents well....great in 1 way but wasn't helpful at the time.Anyway with time I got my mojo back .
Then 6 weeks later i get a bang bang on door,hour 'grilling' certainly wasn't nice friendly supportive chat , even looked at his bedroom.All over may i add because we give his'unregulated' Calpol and nuropen a few times a week for his back pain,both his GP and is consultant know about these and have been discussed at very recent CAF meetings nobody mentioned any concerns and have recommended these.Also because on day trips out e.g theme park we use a nice childs wheelchair we bought ourselves. says that could cause him harm if wrong size,it's not a self propel and he isn't squashed...for that they held a secret meeting and next meeting is the inital child protection conferance where police,consultantants,Ot,physio,my councillor i saw which service I'm now discharged from)and a whole string of offical people most who have never met my child.My GP isn't to happy and has written a full report as can't attend.....I'm so stressed because although rationally i know i have no worries it's just extra stress that I just don't need but stress is affecting my health and that in effect isn't good for our familly catch 22.I just feel vicimised and can't see how this helps my son,how can same department say NO ROLE then come round 6 weeks later when his school complain over calpol and a wheelchair(that they request on school trips) .I asked who made referral and was told schools! last CAF held 10 days before end of summer term..I'm at a loss,sorry for long post but can't sleep S.S coming to speak to son today and I feel on edge when I shouldn't be....Any advice anyone??? except ride it out
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sashadasher · 15/08/2012 06:22
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