I am writing this from an adult's point of view whereas it is normally quite normal for children to feel jealous - us adults know it is a total waste of emotion and doesn't get us anywhere - nevertheless that is what I am currently feeling and can't seem to break the feeling.
Brief explanation:-
Was with husband 18 years, married for 11, 3 children (currently 10, 5 and 1). I had an affair many years ago, husband tried to forgive me (had another baby), but then decided, last New Year's Eve, that he couldn't ever forgive me and was leaving me.
He finally moved out in September after having spent the last 9 months living in the loft.
He moved in with a "friend of a friend" and was seeing a girl from work (who I know, although not that well).
The Friday before Christmas I found out he has now moved in with this girl from work (and her daughter and her nan - she lives at her nan's house after having left her partner the same time as my husband left me).
This was quite hard for me to deal with - I realise that this is not something he would do without thinking long and hard about it. He is not one to be rash and doesn't rush into things - for him to move into her house this relationship must be serious.
Whatever happens in my life, I just seem to deal with it - sometimes feel a bit sad, but then I realise that feeling sad doesn't make it feel any better and I just brush myself down and get on with it.
Anyway, this morning I got a text message from the ex saying he had booked a holiday to take the kids away. All he mentioned was that it was for 2 weeks and that he would be going 10th August. I then text him back asking where and he said "Zante". The reason I am feeling so jealous is that (1) he is obviously going with the girl from work, her daughter and our 3 children and (2) he is going to a place where me and him went pre-marriage days in 1988.
Jealousy is such a horrible feeling and such a bad emotion to deal with.
I am taking the kids away with my mum and also going to have the two weeks away with my mum when he has got the kids with him.
I suppose I just hate the idea of him having a nice time with someone else who isn't me.
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Bumblelion · 21/01/2003 14:45
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