I don't know what triggered the change of mind, I can't say there isn't still a little reluctance there but the more we discuss things the better he gets.

Hi Stuffedmk. So bad news, but some good. Was it your DH watching you go through the emotions of pregnancy testing that made him say yes?

Thanks for your message RGpargy.

I have not given up yet.

x

AF just showed up so it hasn't happened this month.
DH has taken a good few years but he said he can see how upset it makes me so is willing to try for number 2 now so fingers crossed

Well, I thought I would have some idea by now but nothing so far. Have had loads of cramps for about a week but AF is a no show so far. Keeping my fingers crossed!!

Haven't read the entire thread, rabbit, but wanted to say i sympathise as i am in the same boat (sort of). DP was an only child and has never felt lonely or the need for a sibling as he and his parents have always been very very close. I am the youngest of three kids, however, and cannot see how NOT having siblings would be a good thing!

DD is almost 2 now and apart from the newborn/colic nights, has always been a very easy baby. However the lack of the sleep in the early days has put DP off ever having more and as he's an only child, cant see the benefit of having another for DD's sake.

I would love to have one last baby, but as i'm fast approaching 42, i dont see this happening and i suppose that as i have a DS of 19 years old, i should be thankful that i have had 2 children, albeit from different dads and at very different times in my life!

I caved and tested early...BFN, not surprising really. Still not feeling quite right so you never know. Am preparing myself for AF to show up though. Just keeping my fingers crossed that she has got the message that she's not welcome.

hey you stuffedmk that's fantastic news!!! well fingers crossed. but he seems ok about the idea and that's the main thing. In my last chat with my DP a week ago i felt a glimmer of softening, really just a droplet of hope. but i spoke to a friend about it and she was saying she thought one child was more work cause you have to entertain them all the time. so i have decided that i am really going to pursue getting another baby. I would like to have my coil taken out in January. anyway i will let you know and please let me know after this weekend. My heart goes out to you and fingers crossed.

Well, I had another 'talk' with DH and he seems to be softening slightly. In fact he said he wouldn't be surprised if I turned out to be pg this month as he thinks on a couple of occasions (at what would be about the right time) he may not have got out quite in time if you get my meaning .
Anyway in the past if he has been even slightly worried he has insisted on morning after pill straight away, just in case. But this month he didn't even mention it until the subject came up.
So, at present I am sitting here, feeling a bit icky and feeling fairly sure my mouth doesn't usually produce such large quantities of saliva, and keeping fingers crossed that a genuine accident may just be possible.
Of course I am also trying to tell myself that it is probably all in my head lol.

Due on this weekend so will be spending this week madly trying to talk myself out of early testing.

It is good to have somewhere where people understand.

Glad you are feeling better.

Maybe another talk is needed here aswell. At least I have vented here so that maybe I can keep the conversation civilised lol.

i have like yourself felt very very angry with my DP. I had another chat two nights ago and there was the first glimmer of hope which was nothing grand at all. however, i now feel all the feelings i felt for my DP before this issue rose its ugly head. so, the issue is making you say unedited things about your DP not him essentially. p.s. your bit about reason and animals and sex made me laugh. Men are lured into acts by women when men want to project a desire, but then men are intelligent ones in control with reason when they dont want to do what women want. i am finding this forum incredibly useful and made me pluck up the courage to talk to my DP about the issue and now I love my DP "to bits" again.