Hi, I just want to talk this through on here - it might help.
dd is 4.5 and has just started school, since she was born we have discussed having another several times and always decided 'no', now the subject has come up again and we are really not sure. Triggered I think by our lovely dd growing up and being at school, missing that lovely baby and toddler stage and the feeling that I could now mange another as I have more time now. Our pros and cons are as follows; Pros, emotionally we're both broody, dd says she'd like a baby sibling - although that may change when she has one, with dd at school I'd have time to spend with a baby, before one of our arguements was we didn't have room and couldn't afford to move - but we've now converted our loft so have the space.
Cons, juggling child care and work is hard ( I work 3 days a week) - its just got easier - do I want it to get harder again, MIL helped with dd - may not be able to help so much with another - shes now waiting for a hip op, although I know she'd love us to have another and to help where she could - my mum isn't so keen, always tells me how great it is that we have 1. Money for childcare and everything else, a large age gap - at least 5 yrs.
Can't decide, in my heart I'd love one but I'm not sure how practical it is and I am enjoying the few hours of freedom I have now dd is at school - I would sacrifice it though. I'm 33, but would rather have another before 35 if we do go for it - I don't want a huge age gap.
I think that if we keep coming back to this discussion perhaps we shoud just go for it, I don't want to regret not haveing another later in life, but I could find it really hard with 2, oh what to do - what do you think?
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LittleB · 14/10/2009 11:38
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