Oh ruddy NORA

[FrannyandZooey]

I have been really happy with ds's nursery and he has settled in beautifully. The manager told me this week that on a Wed afternoon there would only be him and one other child attending (it is v small quiet nursery), which I thought was great as ds has a very busy day on Wed and I thought the extra attention would be perfect for him.

However today we went and there is a new member of staff and the other child is her son. In theory the manager is there working as well but when I came to pick up ds she was on the phone so ds was with the new member of staff and her son, I suspect it will be like that most times.

I don't feel particularly over the moon about this. I know there is bugger all I can do about it, but I wanted to moan. I feel so disappointed - I like this nursery a lot and we had just got settled in and everything was going beautifully. I don't feel comfortable with it now. Oh bother

[FrannyandZooey]

Is this the wrong time of night to tak nurseries? Are you all too busy laughing at Richard Hammond?

[florenceuk]

Sorry I can't see why it would be a big problem. I've only ever used childminders and nannies with their own children (as they are cheaper!) and they have all been fine - they don't appear to especially favour their own little one, and all the kids generally get on very well. IMO if they are a good carer, the presence of their own child doesn't reduce the quality of care. Do you really think your DS will get less attention than otherwise?

[HuwEdwards]

I read it F&Z, but didn't respond at first because unless your DS was upset or being ignored, I just couldn't see the issue. But am an old hand at nurseries so felt I should just bow out.


But then came back

[misdee]

errrr i cant see the problem myself.

not laughing at RH at all.

[FrannyandZooey]

Fair enough.

Sorry about the RH thing which I can see sounds rather combative, that was just a flippant remark, I don't actually know who he is but saw some jokes about his funeral earlier

[moondog]

What's the problem F&Z.
Wouldn't you enjoy having a little person around to play with your child and enjoy the three way action??

[annh]

Why on earth is this a problem?

[TambaTheDragonSlayer]

I would be thinking along the lines of her son (the nursery nurses) getting / daminding more attention from his 'mom' or that because they know each other well and have a bond already that my son would feel pushed / left out, Or that her son (nursery nurses) would be favoured over mine, stuff like that.

[threebob]

What would you like her to do with her son F&Z - send him to another nursery?

I genuinely don't get why you are so disappointed.

[Marina]

Agree with the others really. Childcare workers with children need daycare too.
I would assume that as a qualified nursery nurse the employee would not be tempted to ignore my child and focus on her own.

[HappyMumof2]

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[bundle]

we have had one childcare worker at our nursery who had her son at nursery. we chose to move her into a different room, to avoid any potential conflicts of interest (eg I do this at home..don't see why i can't do it here)

[FrannyandZooey]

Hey that's great, don't bother waiting for me to explain what I think the problem is, just storm in and decide I am being unreasonable. Thanks, I feel loads better now.

[Jimjams2]

so what is the problem?

[lunavix]

Is the problem that both people (staff and child) in with your ds are totally new? He doesn't know either, and they don't know the 'ropes' so to speak? I'd find that unsettling in your situation.

[aitch71]

I totally see why you'd be a bit gutted by this, Franny. Of course nursery nurses need childcare, and of course the most sensible place would be in the place where she works, but if Franny wanted her son to spend time with another mum and her boy then she might have chosen a childminder rather than a nursery.
It's a bit of a 'gulp' moment cos you don't know how it will work out. It'll probably be absoultely fine, you know... your son will probably behave better for her as her own child will be sick of being disciplined by her. Frankly i'd have thought for that reason that she would prefer to have him taught by a colleague while she does another age group.
i don't think there would be any harm in you expressing that to the nursery manager. not a complaint, just a 'is there any reason why you're not swapping the teachers over?' kinda thing.

[Jimjams2]

It's a nursery though, the kids enrolled into each session will change regularly. By next week their might be 5 children in that session, by Xmas there might be two.

Staff change as well (although in a good nursery not too often).

[Twiglett]

what are you worried about?

[HappyMumof2]

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[TambaTheDragonSlayer]

Franny I was being very understanding

[oliveoil]

Is this just for the Weds afternoon? What happens on the other days he goes?

[codwiggle]

no prob here

[codwiggle]

kinda agree that you can tpick adn choose other kids at nursery
sorry

[beckybrastraps]

Not sure why you're in a strop. You posted three times before your "Hey that's great, don't bother waiting for me to explain what I think the problem is, just storm in and decide I am being unreasonable" comment. I though you HAD explained what the problem was.

Actually, I think what would worry me slightly was that there were only two children and one carer, rather than any relationship between carer and the other child.

[eefs]

I think the RH comments are out of line