At the risk of sounding like a drama queen, I think I want to leave home. Had enough of tidying, clearing up, washing, washing up, cooking, and looking after children. I seem to be cooking almost every hour of the day and evening, There is crap all over my house because I seem to be the only one with the ability to tidy it up, and my poor little DD is the one to get it in the neck because she's naturally been playing with her toys and hasn't put them away. There are boxes of files, piles of papers which are DH's just left lying around, and there are clothes which the boys have grown out of everywhere. The floor's filthy partly because I don't seem to find any time to hoover it, and I haven't managed to clean it for about a year. DH brings home lots of manky old vegetables from the shop and leaves them in various plastic bags or boxes and looks hurt when I haven't used them all up - he doesn't really like soup or vegetarian food, so how he thinks I'm supposed to use them all is beyond me.
My poor DD is not getting what she should from me, and I hate that our relationship has changed and that she's not my little girl anymore, because she has to be a responsible big sister.
I don't have any time to myself with quiet-time and peace - once the kids are in bed at 7.30 DH has the TV on and even if I sit in the other room I have to put my fingers in my ears and drum my head with the rest so I can't hear it and so I can concentrate on a book.
ARRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!! I feel horribly ungrateful, because the twins are a dream really, I do get enough (just) sleep, they eat like small horses and are generally very good-natured. Not much more you can ask from babies. DH works really hard in the shop, but doesn't manage to get home before bathtime most nights, and certainly doesn't actually do bathtime. I often find I get on better when he isn't coming home because I'm not already cross that he isn't pulling his weight with the kids. If I try to talk to him about his behaviour with DD he has a go at me for criticising in front of her. I try really hard not to do that, but occasionally I don't want her to lose it as it's nearly bed time so I do say something, in what I think is a nice way that doesn't undermine him. He then gets angry with me and takes it out on her. So then all she wants is me. And then I get to thinking that actually I have brought her up pretty much on my own for the last 4 years and so I do know her better than he does, so why shouldn't I stick up for her and ask for a bit of respect for her thinking.
So there he is, thinking he's working really hard and deserves to sit down when he comes home, and that it's OK to leave stuff around, and for me to tidy up, cook dinner, do the baths, put the babies to bed, etc, and there's me thinking that I've worked really hard all day too, getting the children up on my own, getting DD to pre-school having eaten breakfast and got dressed, possibly doing some paid work, collecting DD, making lunch, doing bottles, making supper, maybe a quick trip to the park, eating supper, changing nappies, etc. None of which I mind doing particularly, except when there is no help later and no conception that it's bloody hard work!
And I go to salsa on a Tuesday night, and every week the house is exactly as I left it before I go. So I tend not to get to bed before 12.30 because I have to do all the chores for the next day. Last week it was 1.15. If I don't do them we don't get to school on time.
Phew. So there's that off my chest. Any suggestions anyone? I'm not happy! And now I have two howlers who need their bottles because Mummy's ignored them for too long cos I needed some sanity time.
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devondoris · 09/05/2007 15:56
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