D' ya ever wonder if we'll get through in one piece?

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Minisoksmakehardwork Mon 30-May-16 09:45:12

Morning girls. I've found us a new home <rolls out shagpile, pushes fully laden trolley into corner. Brews tea and puts coffee in cafetière. Wafts smells of freshly baked cakes out of the door and arranges flowers in vases. Hangs pictures on the wall. Taps foot impatiently waiting for comfy sofas to arrive>

So as we were so nearly finished the thread I did my best to fill it up to completion. I hope you don't mind. I'm hoping you all find your way here too from then links I have sent.

This morning is dull and breezy in minisoks area. We're supposed to be meeting friends (though with no fixed arrangements) and dh is currently snoring his head off in bed. I might be slightly annoyed as my lie in yesterday got cut short with James waking me up to get his kindle and then my parents texting me to come over. I can't really grumble about that as they were bringing Emily her birthday presents but still. I think he's now had enough so I'm not discouraging the noise and thumping up and down stairs. 8 years old! So I now have an 8 year old, a 6 year old and the twins are 4! I can't believe how much they are all changing and growing. Jen does gymnastics, Joshy does toddler football. James is on an under 6's team (I've no idea how that works either) and has been invested in beavers. Emily is loving brownies and hockey, although hockey has finished until September . We're just trying to get some practise in for her so she doesn't completely forget what she's learnt.

Oh, and not forgetting Merlin the magnificent. He's a gorgeous puss, even if the children do love him to torturous degrees - poor kitten hides when he's had enough 'love'.

Enough of me, how the devil are you all?

shabbs Mon 30-May-16 10:58:39

Morning girls xx

Minisoksmakehardwork Mon 30-May-16 22:05:18

Shhhh. Two have been packed off to Nana and Grandad's. One is going to soccer school tomorrow. I'm having a day with my littlest girlie smile

triplets Mon 30-May-16 23:25:13

Well done Soks........glad you have taken over trolley duty.........I can sit back and relax whilst someone else does the cooking! Never forget the chocolate covered nuts, I am not fussy but must be from M&S........ha ha! Your little ones are growing up fast! x

triplets Thu 02-Jun-16 08:31:06

Twenty two years ago today since you left us. My heart is breaking for all the life you lost and we lost with you. Love you forever, miss you forever, my lovely special boy. xxx

A beautiful picture of your son triplets
Am so sorry for your loss flowers

Would you like to share any stories with us as you remember him especially today?

shabbs Thu 02-Jun-16 12:07:47

Thinking of you today Trips - as always - love his handsome smile on that picture. Hope he has found my sons and they are causing havoc. Sending a massive hug and my love xxx

Minisoksmakehardwork Thu 02-Jun-16 22:25:01

Thinking of you Trips <box of tissues, large bowl of m&s choccy nuts on trolley - grab them before Merlin does>

Minisoksmakehardwork Fri 03-Jun-16 16:11:19

Aaaaaaaaaaaah! Can't I tell half term is nearly over! None of them have done a blasted thing I've asked begged, cajoled all bloody day. And now Jen and josh are both early to bed due to their persistent ignoring me and pestering Merlin. He had his second vaccs and was chipped today. Was so good bless him.

triplets Fri 03-Jun-16 16:54:12

<< grabs nuts before Merlin does and hides under pillow for bed time snack>>
Thanks Shabs and Soks.............feel so relieved the day is over but am now feeling bad as I didn't go to the cemetry as I couldn't face it. My sil went and said it needs weeding sad x

Minisoksmakehardwork Fri 03-Jun-16 20:10:35

Don't feel bad for not going Trips. There are another 364 days when you can go. Sometimes the thought of bumping into other people, however well meaning, on days like yesterday is too much to bear. You need to look after yourself, not pin on that bright face and be positive in your grief just so others aren't made uncomfortable.

Could sil not weed it for you, or is that taking the care you can still do away?

shabbs Sun 05-Jun-16 14:41:21

Trips - the last time I went to the cemetry was almost two years ago - I went to look at my Dads headstone. I cant bear to go there - there in a row are my grandparents, my sons and then my Dad. I dont care what people think about me not going - its nothing to do with anybody else. Instead of telling you that it needed weeding she should have bloody done it <<walks away and kicks the door.....hard>>

Minisoksmakehardwork Tue 07-Jun-16 11:36:20

Morning. <drags weary arse through door and flops on shagpile>. At least the bugs are back at school today. I think dh's alarm went off at the ungodly hour of 5am to make sure we were all done and ready. And we were, until James decided he didn't want to go to school and cooperation went out the window. Joy.

Minisoksmakehardwork Mon 13-Jun-16 10:41:32

Having a happy 'one twin' day today. Jennifer is at preschool so it's mummy and Joshua today. Raining here. Hope you are all having better weather.

Today's tasks are making the house look presentable and visiting my grandma. Hoping I can get her in the shower today. If yesterday continued as Saturday started, she's going to need it envy

Yesterday I was at our patron's lunch event for district guiding. Lots of rain can't dampen their spirits. Bouncy castles, may like dancing and go-karting, amongst other things, in the horrid, wet rain. It wasn't too heavy but was very drenching.

Minisoksmakehardwork Thu 23-Jun-16 07:52:19

<peers round door, eerie silence in the shagpile. Piles trolley with pickled onion monster munch, cake. Boils kettle and lays out mugs ready for tea and coffee. Whistles while she waits>

So... this week, Emily jumped in the river and Jennifer tries to burn the house down...

triplets Thu 30-Jun-16 04:11:02

Awake at 2.30am because I am scared. Shabs knows. For the last 4/5 weeks maybe a bit longer my abdomen has felt hard, wake in the morning and it felt swollen and I thought it was a full bladder or something. Then two weeks ago I felt a swelling to the right of my navel and if I pressed on it it moved. Worried I made a docs apt which was yesterday at 7.30am! I was praying she would say its a hernia but its not. She can feel a mass, not in my stomach, womb or poss ovary. She has fast tracked me, already had bloods done and got an ultrasound today at 12.30pm. I am terrified. Got my soldier boy coming home on Frid from Germany and was so looking forward to it and we were hoping to find a break and go away for 3/4 days. Gp said no, better to get the scan out of the way first. I have completely gone to pieces, my biggest fear is to be told its cancer, just wanted to have some peace in my life. The early hours of the morning are awful......... xx

shabbs Thu 30-Jun-16 10:46:33

My dear 'forever friend' - I know I always say the same stuff BUT.....once you know whats going on you can make plans. You can get things organised in your mind and you can 'do this' I know that for sure. You are an amazing wife, mum and friend - one of the bravest people that I know. You have marched through some of the most difficult, heartbreaking situations and you will get through whatever todays tests throw at you. I hope you know that I am always, always here for you. Many miles separate us but that makes no difference. xxxx

triplets Sat 02-Jul-16 01:25:49

Shabs.........what the hell would I do without you, joined at the hips we were at birth! Ultrasound showed large cyst 20x18cm, no other info, may be benign may not. Got a hospital appointment today, 13th July at Canterbury. So uncomfortable tonight I cant lie down sad Had Annas mum round tonight, spent 3 hours with me which made me feel a lot better. xx

triplets Tue 05-Jul-16 07:17:59

Morning all........feeling much more relieved, bloods tests all clear so looks like its a benign cyst, although massive, I look like I di carrying these three! Just want it removed then, getting really uncomfortable. Is everyone else ok, we seem to be sparse on the ground these days. xx

shabbs Wed 06-Jul-16 11:44:54

Brilliant news Trips - hope they get you sorted very soon xxxx

Minisoksmakehardwork Thu 07-Jul-16 12:54:00

Sorry for the absence. James has been keeping us very busy lately. He is such a ball of... Well, who knows. Anger? Frustration? Misunderstanding? We've a family worker from the locality team and school are likely to get their knuckles rapped.

Trips it's not long until the 13th so hopefully it will continue to be good news and that cyst will soon be gone.

Twins are doing well. Finally got Jen's ent appointment. Joshua has finally seen the opthamologist again, only over a month after he should have done. I've had my wrists slapped re his design of glasses (too bag a lense space) and stopping the eye drops after the 3 extra weeks he gave us. Although, had we had the appointment when we should have done... So Joshy now has another 7 weeks of eye drops shock

Had their preschool parent consultation earlier. They're doing great and preschool are quite emotional about their leavers this year. Most of them have been with them 2 years, and the twins were literally just turned 2 when they started. It's funny looking at how much they have changed over this time.

triplets Wed 13-Jul-16 07:57:32

Todays the day, wish me luck girls. x

shabbs Wed 13-Jul-16 09:10:48

Good luck me owd mucker. xxx

triplets Thu 14-Jul-16 08:13:17

The title of this thread is exactly how I feel. Didn't get the news I wanted at the hospital yesterday. Was told the cyst is suspicious, that it contains hard matter. So now urgent ct and mri scan then open surgery to remove the cyst. Hardly slept last night, am so scared. Just as life had settled down again with Harry and all the kids lives changing, its just not fair sad x

shabbs Thu 14-Jul-16 09:41:53

It's not fair Trips - not fair in any sense of the word. Me and thee have marched through so much....so very much BUT we are tough owd birds. I am afraid it is time for you to 'kick arse' again love. You know the 'arse kicking' that we did about our lads, and coping with the death of parents, and spouses illnesses. You now have a 'plan' in place. You have a list of events that have to happen and, without sounding like a patronising cow, you are luckier than some who ignore how they are feeling and dont go to the GP. I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that you will come 'through this' kicking arse along the way. Right......head up, shoulders back and pin on a smile - YOU CAN DO THIS, I KNOW YOU CAN. Feel free to shout Malaker at every opportunity. Always here for you, even though many miles separate us xxxxx

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