8 week old twin routine - getting started

[Rach738]

I have 8 week old twin boys and a 2.5 year old. With my daughter we followed a loose routine from around 6 weeks which worked well. With the boys I am finding it impossible to even start.

During the day I feed every 3 hours and then when first wakes for food in night. Both sleep heavily for long hours in day and then are wide awake and alert at least half the night.

I have tried implementing a routine wake time and / or keeping awake between day sleeps but simply can't keep them awake. They can sleep through a full clothes and nappy change and no amount of jiggling makes a difference, as soon as I put one down to start the other they are asleep again.

I have also tried keeping a log to see if there is natural pattern, but other than day v night in generl their sleep patterns are totally erratic each day and they are no where close to in sync to each other.

I am beginning to crack with strain of sleepless nights and can't nap in day as have to look after my daughter. If anyone has advice or comfort it will change, it'd be appreciated.

[BearFeet]

With my older ds I was in a lose routine from 4 weeks. With dts it was impossible for me until about 4 months (sorry).
Me and dh had a child each at night. They slept in different rooms and we slept in the childs room on the floor. Dh had the better sleeper as was at work. We did this every night without fail. It worked for us.

[Rach738]

Thanks, at least this gives me hope there may be a change eventually. What do you think changed it
at 4 months? Do you think it was something you did, or just the twins?

[Sunshineandsilverbirch]

Sorry, I really feel for you.

My two fell into their own natural routine by about 6 months. Before that we just had to take it as it came.

Hang in in there - most if my twin friends found it easier after six months.

Can you get someone to come and help with your dd so that you can have a nap?