Hi all.
My twin girls are now 3.5months old, born 11wks prem they are 4weeks old adjusted. They spent the first 2 and a bit months in neonatal care and came home 6 weeks ago, sadly a week after my mom passed away. Which has not helped my stress levels, but such is life.
My girls are generally really good, both now nearing 9lbs, (6lbs up from birth weight). They are certainly little characters, both now looking around at things and lifting their heads up and happy to play on their mat for a little while each day. They are both suffering from reflux and are in baby gaviscon and aptamil anti reflux milk, but are always happy to take their milk.
My issues arise from the fact we are still in the routine set by the hospital; feeding every 4 hours or on demand, always doing nappy first and then feeding. We are giving them infacol before each feed as well, as we were sure that they may have a bit of colic. I have tried on numerous occasions to feed both at the same time, having them sit in their bouncy chairs and offering a bottle to each, but they just cannot take to it, they will only really feed in arms. Which means I try to feed one then the other. During the day this seems to work, I have a swing to calm one in if they happen to wake up at the same time and I am busy with the other. About 4 pm every day though they seem to drop out of this nice routine and just turn into daemons. I can't settle them, they are feeding all over the place and nothing seems to please them.
I have tried to get into a bedtime routine, of when they wake for a feed after 7 I give them a bath, or a top and tail (depending on if I have help or not) give them a bottle and then take them up to bed. But this is really the only routine I have, and it only really works half the time. In the day when they fall back to sleep after their feeds I tend to put them in the carry cots of their pram (which they are fast outgrowing). I have no set times for anything, everything I do revolves around me counting 4 hours and prepping and planning when they might wake, generally only to be scuppered by them doing something completely off piste.
How did you get your babies into a routine, and what was it? Am I attempting to do this too early?
I just can't relax about any of it, I'm living either on a knife edge or under a black cloud of despair when everything goes wrong. I can't bare hearing them cry, and am petrified of them waking up together, and picking up one before the other, it makes me feel wicked. Some days I just don't want to leave the house as I am just waiting for everything to fall apart around me. All I want is for them to be happy and contented, I just don't know how to settle them and make them the happy little people they should be.
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Treecreeper · 17/08/2014 23:16
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