Dunno why I'm on here - I'm not a mum and it's not through want of trying. We've tried for three years, and I've not coped with the infertility at all well emotionally. Worst part has always been that we're ineleible for any help for the infertility because of my BMI - I've lost three stones but it's still not enough to hook us into NHS support, and we can never afford to go private.
Got a positive middle of last week, it had changed to a negative on Sunday morning (I just had a hunch), and the inevitable bleeding started on Sunday afternoon. Went to the doctors, refused referral for a scan - was too early to see anything anyway and I was going nowhere near the part where the scanners are which is right next to ante-natal.
So I'm sat at home on my own (hubby's gone to work today - he took yesterday off to be with me), crampy and bleeding and utterly heartbroken - someone sending me a text that she'd tried for so long and got her little miracle (she's 8 months pregnant) - really didn't help... I don't know why people think it does - it just felt like a huge "ner ner ner" to me.
Can't go out - babies everywhere - some mum was letting her toddler run around the doc's waiting room yesterday, could see me trying desperately to look away and recoiling in terror - and still she kept letting them run up to me even though it was visibly causing me so much upset. I can't continue to function within society when I'm like a caged animal having a fight or flight response whenever I'm trapped in a room with a doting parent.
It's taken three years to even get one tiny glimmer of hope of a positive. In another three years I'll be pushing 35 (birthday in a couple of weeks - nice present huh) so I've got to keep trying really quickly - holding out hope that at least this indicates I've lost sufficient weight my fertility's returned and that I can ride any post miscarriage increase in fertility - but being honest, I'm suicidal, I can't eat, I can't sleep properly (just lie there), I'm uncomfortable for the flipping cramping (nothing major - just have naff all pain threshold) and I've got the worst toothache in the world (and a severe dental phobia).
I got to walk in the sun and be happy and pregnant for all of 3 days. Now all we've got of our dreams of parenthood is a blurry photo of a peed-on pregnancy test that read positive.
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Three years of TTC - it didn't stick
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emptyshell · 18/05/2010 12:05
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