I thought I had been doing better, too. Even as I type this, I can't stop crying.
Had a mmc and ERPC last Thursday at 9wks+1. Found out and had op done all on the same day.
The last couple of days, I've been thinking I've been coping slightly better. I went to the ice rink today with my girls (they both have skating coaching) and was thinking that although I wasn't exactly happy, I was actually enjoying watching them jump and spin.
Then, this afternoon, I don't know what has hit me. I don't know if it's because I'm not working because it's Easter holidays, but I haven't stopped crying for hours. It's my 16th wedding anniversary today too and I feel I should be grateful that I am still with DH (who i still really love) and have two lovely girls, but I just can't see past losing this baby. I just want my baby back. I want to be having a baby in October, not just having to get on with on with normal life.
Worst of all is that I feel as though i've let my whole family down by putting them through all this. We've got £7000 on the mortgage as a result of the IVF and my girls have been through so much the last 3 months. My poor, poor eldest finally cracked today after a week of being so strong for me and has cried too virtually the whole day. My parents were so excited about another grandchild and I know my mum has been crying too -she's in her 70s and I worry about the stress on her. Despite having 3 children, they only have my two girls and my nephew as grandchildren and I know they were getting so excited. For various reasons more grandchildren are unlikely to come from any other quarter.
I feel sure that I have lost my one and only chance now. I was looking on the internet today (big mistake) and given my age (43) it seems like what happened was pretty much inevitable. After 8 years of trying it's very unlikely to happen naturally and even if £7000 fell into our laps for another IVF attempt (not going to happen) the same thing could just happen all over again. The livebirth rate for my age group is ridiculously low, about 3%.
I need a miracle but I'm not sure I'm going to get one. We've been 8 years praying for a miracle and now this. It all feels like too much to cope with. I have no idea how I am ever going to move on from this point.
I'm sorry this is so long, I just needed to get it out.
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I am really, really not coping today :(
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musicposy · 02/04/2010 19:57
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