I had an ERPC yesterday after discovering at an early scan that I have had a MMC (at 8 1/2 weeks but the baby stopped growing at about 6 1/2 weeks).
I had a previous MMC (discovered at 10 weeks) about 2 years ago but have since had DS1 who is everything to DH and me .
After the first MMC I was devastated. I had wanted a baby for so long (we conceived v quickly but it took us a while to get to that point), in my mid-30s, wondered if I would ever have children, had a strong bond with my embryo. The ERPC was very painful too. It took a long time for me to recover and I suppose I've still not recovered completely from that first time, hence my decision to always have an early scan.
This time, I feel very sad. The ERPC was not painful. DS never fails to lift my spirits and make me laugh. The new pregnancy was very much wanted but our first attempt so sooner than expected and I feel reasonably positive that we will be able to conceive again. The pregnancy had not felt right for a couple of weeks and I had felt quite unwell so it is good to be feeling a bit better. The only thing that worries me a bit is that miscarriages have both been very similar (growth stopped at the same time and my body failed to recognise the loss).
Part of me feels that maybe I am trying to keep going because I have a child that very much needs me. Part of me believes I can just be a bit more objective this time because I know I can have a successful pregnancy, so maybe it just wasn't meant to be this time.
I just hope I am not setting myself up for delayed grief.
Wise words very welcome. Sorry my post is a bit of a babble.
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Trying to understand how I feel about my MMC
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FullMooniMarmite · 22/10/2009 17:05
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