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finding things really difficult dont want to feel anything anymore

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I know people will be fed up of me by now but im reaally not coping. I just feel empty and crap. things are just so unfair. all i want to do is sleep and not think. I just need to stop how im feeling. I cant end things cos i have dd but im being a crap mum and maybe she would be happier without me. She need her mummy to be happy and to do things with her and im struggling to get her dressed and feed her. The house is a bomb site and i cant deal with it. I dont have any support other than here and i know thats gonna wear down soon.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Tue 30-Jun-09 15:29:29
So may i say that STARSHAKER is a LIAR!! She says she has no support with her bombsite of a house & that people is crap crap crap!!Infact alot of the stuff she says on this is shite take it with a pich of salt people!
shes 4
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 29-Jun-09 10:57:07
How old is your dd?
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 29-Jun-09 10:56:39
I think writing it is fine. It will probably help you express yourself better without getting flustered and forgetting something as well. Hope it goes well
still the same. want to go to the docs but dont have anybody to watch dd. i posted a thread about writing it all in a letter but dont know if this is ok
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Mon 29-Jun-09 10:24:38
The person the ma put me in touch with to speak to on the phone only did phone calls in the evening when her children were in bed. But obviously that means the intial ma call in the day, unless someone else can call for you.
How are you doing today?
the MA is only open when i have dd and i cant let her see me upset
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 28-Jun-09 19:44:11
A couple of weeks I think. But if you ring the miscarriage association they can give you a number for someone you can speak with over the phone. Or if you are feeling really bad and cant wait you could try the samaritians, I know they might not have much experience in mc, but if you are desperate and need to talk. But keep posting on here too
how long did you need to wait before you got the councelling
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Sun 28-Jun-09 15:28:20
Starshaker- I dont know your story, but Im so sorry you are going through this. I have had 3 mmcs and felt pretty similar to how you are describing. I felt so alone as everyone expected me to move on after a few months, but it doesnt always work like that. I ended up being on ad's and had counselling, it was no miracle cure but did help. It sounds like you really need more support, please talk to your gp or the miscarriage association.

Regarding the tests they did them three times on me. After the 2nd one because I begged, at first they said no but they could see what state I was in so did them. After the 3rd and then they referred me to St Marys Paddington and they repeated them. Each time them came back that nothing was wrong, which was really difficult. But I asked if I could take the aspirin anyway. They said yes because the test was not 100% accurate. I took the aspirin and successfully had two boys. I dont know if it was the aspirin or not. But just because your tests come back with nothing doesnt mean its the end, although I know its heartbreaking.

I hope you ok, dont be so hard on your self and give yourself time. Please talk to someone
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