Hi dubidi
I had exactly the same thing after my mc, my first cycle was 36 days long. My second cycle was normal (about 28 days). It's quite common for cycles to take a bit of time to return to normal after a mc. I used ovulation tests for a couple of months just to check when I was ovulating - sometimes that changes too. It's good however that you've had your first period - it means everything should be functioning normally. I wish you all the best! Hope you can do something nice this week end. xx

Hi all,
thank you for the support and again my deepest sympathies for all your losses, i didnt wait and did ttc straight away as its the only way i can cope and waiting just felt like a waste of time. anyway i havent caught on as my period has arrived today 36 days later my normal cycle is 28 days,so you can imagine what i was thinking!!
feel a little bit sad but will carry on trying.........as we live in hope.
How did people find their cycles after a mc, did they return to normal quite quick or come back messed up?? i think the worst time is waiting after a period due date not sure whether to test or not.
Enjoy the weekend all, hope the weather cheers up. xx

I mc at 7 weeks 5 days. my dr told me there was no reason to start trying straight away if we were ready.

I had read you were most fertile after a MC so we cracked on with it and caught straight away.

The baby I lost was due on March 9th and my fresh pregnancy was due on may 9th.

I now have a very healthy DS3 who was born on May 12th this year.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Sorry for your loss.
I had a missed m/c at 9 weeks and it took 2 D&Cs to ensure everything was removed (sorry, don't want to use more familiar language).

Whilst in the hospital I saw a junior doctor who said 6 months a very stroppy EPU nurse who said 3 months and a much more friendly nurse specialist on the ward who I actually had much more confidence in than the others. She said 1 month was a good idea, mainly so they could date the next p/g easily.

I waited the 1 month and luckily got p/g straight away. DS was born 9 months later! I did bleed for the first 14 weeks of pg and there were clots in my uterus. No-one had an explanation and they had disappeared by the 20 week scan (I think). Trying again was very helpful for me to help deal with the m/c. I just wanted to get on with it all.

I also had a good friend and neighbour at the time who had a m/c at the same time and didn't bother to wait at all. She got pg immediately and had a sucessful pg.

Good luck with what you decide. I can't say I was much in the mood for dtd (and if I am honest, DH didn't know we were 'trying again' - the fool!) but the pg definitely helped me deal with the m/c

And sorry I meant to prefix all of that with:
I'm so sorry for your loss.
xxx

After TTC for 6 months (not long in grand scheme of things but felt like a lifetime especially as every time I knew I had caught ovulation) I had an MMC at 10 weeks (emby died at 6and a half weeks) and we decided to try again straight away and not wait for a period in between. (Some dr's said 3 periods, some said one, and midwife said whenever you are ready).

I am now 10.5weeks pregnant again (got pregnant straight after no period in between) and this time it has kept growing (and fingers crossed it still does) - I ovulated 26days after the MMC and we actually resumed intercourse 9 days after as we both physically needed to be close to each other. I have been absolutely terrified that I got pregnant too soon after the MMC but so far all seems well (and lots of nausea and vomiting which I didnt have with my last pregnancy- the joys!)

If we get to the birth it will mean I will have been pregnant for over a year! with only a 2 week gap in the middle!

Do you know if your emby had stopped growing at a certain stage or had it turned into a foetus (+9weeks). As that may have some bearing on how soon you should leave it. In my case because it was an MMC of a 6 week emby (but 10week egg sac so I still passed clots the size of my fist ) and it was a swift complete natural miscarriage I figured there wouldn't be as much trauma as say it was a 10 week old foetus I was miscarrying. Also may depend on how you miscarried- whether you needed surgery etc- as your womb may need time to heal. So that may be worth thinking about?

(Apologies if terms like embryo and foetus upset you- I know they can upset some ladies - its just for me personally I can't bring myself to say Baby- as thats the upsetting one for me)

Dear Dubidi
I'm so sorry to hear aobut your loss. I lost my first baby last April at 17 weeks - it was very sudden and I was absolutely devastated. We really thought we'd be OK after 12 weeks. In addition I had a serious fertility problem and had had to have an operation to conceive, so it was doubly hard.
I had counselling (cognitive behavioural therapy) which really helped, as I couldn't get past the anger and grief. Also the church was a big support. We tried again straight away, only waited for the bleeding to stop, didn't wait for the first period. I got pregnant again after just 3 months and now have a beautiful baby son. Most people think it's better to wait until you've had your first period, because:
- it's easier to date the next pregnancy
- you know things are working OK
- you probably need a little bit of time to come to terms with the mc. I know that if I had got pregnant again straight away it would have been hard physically and emotionally.
But there is no reason you should wait 3 months unless you want to.
I wish you all the best. xx

Dubidi I am sorry for your loss...it is so similar to me and so I felt should write. I too had a MMC at 12 weeks in middle of June, the DD was Christmas day. I had some spotting a few days before our 12-week scan was due so went to EPU where was told there was no heartbeat and the baby had stopped growing at about 6weeks. It was our first pregnancy and so I think it completely takes the innocence of pregnancy away and replaces it with anxiety, emptiness and sadness.

I was booked in for a D&C, but miscarried naturally in the days while waiting for the appointment - wasn't really expecting natural MC to be such a painful experience.
I like you just wanted to become pregnant again and thought we should start TTC straight away as had also heard all the suggestions that you are more fertile after a MC and the 'waiting for a period' first is mainly to date the pregnancy. I started to feel better about two weeks ago, but then had some reflexology and a massage and afterwards was increadibly sad and tearful and realised that it is probably a good thing for the body to have time to repair itself emotionally as well as physically. DH and I have spent the last month taking care of each other and getting back into a healthy, happier place. My first period has now arrived (although seems quite light and odd!) so feel that is a good sign that body is getting back on track and hopefully will be able to crack on with TTC.
As is a while since your post, I hope that you are also starting to feel a little better and fingers crossed that we and everyone else TTC will soon be blessed with little ones.

thank u for the advice neolara much appreciated.
I woke up this morning with a sinking feeling thankfully i am staying with my parents for a while to help me through cant face going home yet.The nice weather helps, dreading the winter and christmas time its going to be so depressing this year was so excited about a christmas baby. laurbom how are you feeling now? Thank u for your kind words i to hope you to concieve soon.
have a nice wkend all.
Dubidi xx

I'm sorry for your loss.

My consultant told us we could try as soon as we were emotionally ready to ttc again.

No reason to wait.

We did wait until I had one period, however, mostly because we weren't emotionally ready.

After that, we were and I fell pregnant the next cycle.