possible blighted ovum after IVF

[venus1785]

Hi my name is venus. i am in my early 20s and had a miscarriege at 4 weeks after IVF, and i am now pregnant for the second time as a result of IVF. I had my first scan at 5 weeks and was told i had either miscarried or had a chemical pregnancy as nothing could be seen from the scan. i went back a week later at 6 weeks, and was told that a sac could be seen, but it was too early to see a baby as they claimed the sac measured at 5 week 4 days pregnancy. my dates were not off as i had IVF. another week later, at 7 weeks, i had a scan and was told by the doctor that all they could see was the sac and the yolk sac, but nothing else. which to me was good as it was a development from the last scan. they told me that this was not a good sign, and that this may be a failing pregnancy. i am very down and depressed as i thought that because there has been progress within the womb it was a good sign. i then went back for another scan today at 7weeks, 5 days. they cant even see the yolk sac that the saw a few days ago! i have booked myself in for a D&C on wednesday, but my husband says that i should wait one more week, until i am 9 weeks to get final confrimation and make a decision from there. but i think the wait will kill me. i haven't managed to go to work since i discovered that it may be a blighted ovum, and i can't imagine what i could have done wrong. i also feel ashamed as when i found i was pregnant, i wanted to shout it from the roof top, and my job being so physical, i had to tell my work mates of the pregnancy very early on. i feel shameful that i did. i wish no one knew. i just want to hide somewhere. i have had no pain or bleeding, which is making it even harder for myself and my husband to accept it. i feel bad that i have influenced my husband to spending most of our savings on this venture for the second time in 6 months only to get a useless result. what makes this even worse is that fact that i donated some eggs after my treatment as i had produced 21 eggs, now all i keep thinking is that someone else could be carrying a child that is biologicaly mine. i guess i am envious. i have been left with ovaries soo swollen that they can bee seen and felt on my belly. everytime i go in for a scan this is always the focus of the scan, not the pregnancy. i fear i have ruined my ovaries, and any chances of having children in future. i have fluid in my womb and to be honest i am not sure what this means, but i know it's not good. my head is all over the place and i seriously feel like i am loosing it. has anyone ever had this and it turned out well? pls help

[snoopdog]

oh, venus

i have suffered 3 miscarriages and i know how hard it is,

i would ask to be scanned to make double sure before the d and c,

ask them to turn the screen away of you dont want to see, my worst memories are of seeing nothing/sacs/ no movement on the scan screen,

dont think too much about your work friends, if they are just that, it wont matter to them and they will be there for you,

how is your dh coping?

ivf must be so tough

keep posting here, i 'found' mn 2 years ago after my 1st m/c, the wonderful women here got me though another 2 m/c, i would have been lost without the support,

is there anything we can do to help?

((hug))

[SpeckledHen]

I am so very sorry. I do not know what is happening to you. I had 5 mcs myself and 3 live babies. 2 of my mcs were blighted ovums and I did have bleeding. I will pray for you.

[venus1785]

hi ladies,

thanks all for your support. i have been to the Doctors again after two weeeks of waiting. they said they can clearly see two yolks in one sac now. however, no baby to be seen though. the sac looks fine and healthy, but at 8 weeks they should be able to see the baby clearly. the doctor is not optimistic at all, but does not want me to have a D&C yet, i have to have another scan soon, to see if there have been any changes. i kind of have hope now, and i am really praying that the babies are fine and are just taking their time to be seen.

many thanks for all your kind words.