Missed Misscarriage

[PINKCLAIRE126]

Hi there, i need some advice from fellow mums or anyone who has gone through the same expereince. I am 10 weeks pregnant, I had a scan yesterday becuase i was experiencing slight pain and i had noticed a brownish distcharge. It turns out that there is no faetal heartbeat. I thought i was 10 weeks pregnant but the faeutus had stopped growing at 6 weeks. I was advised that i had to go back in a weeks time to be rescanned just so they could reconfirm which i find really distressing as i dont really want to have to go back to the ame room and undergo the same proceedure just to be told that my baby is really dead. Also i am ment to be going on holiday on Tuesday so they have said they will rescan me the day before i go.

They have offered me all three options but as i am going on holiday i cant have any of the medical help so i am going to wait for things to happen naturally. I am totally devestated and am not sure what to expect. Is being on holiday really the best place to be when something like this is going to happen. Please can someone help?

[TheBlonde]

Personally I would cancel the holiday - do you have insurance?

I had a mmc and waited to mc naturally but I bleed too much and ended up in hosp

You might only get a heavy period-like mc but I wouldn't go away

[PINKCLAIRE126]

Thanks for replying so quickly. We do have holiday insurance and i am definately worried about bleeding heavily and having to go to hospital in another country. I just have to try and persued my partner that i dont think we should go. He has taken the news of the MMC really badly and just wants to go away and get away from it all

Thanks for getting back to me.

[scotlass]

oh sweetheart I'm so sorry.

This happened to me in February got to 11.5wks but baby stopped growing at 9wks. It's a complete nightmare and you and your DP will be on a rollercoaster of emotions. FWIW I don't think going abroad is a great idea at the moment. I can totally understand the desire to get away but tbh you don't know if you will mc naturally without needing some medical assistance.

I also mc'd naturally in Florida in Jul 07 and luckily didn't need to attend a Dr but to be honest mmc doesn't always seem to be straight forward. I really wanted to be at home in my own bed with my own company (we were there with parents and friends).

What did the hospital advise?

I'm so so sorry

[PINKCLAIRE126]

SCOTLAS

The hospital havnt really said much, they've just equested that i go back on monday to have the scan and then i can either have a D and C or be mediacally managd and assist the misscarriage along. Both of which will prevent us from going on holiday. Perhaps i will wait and see what they say on Monday. This is eally rubbish because there is apart of me still thinks that they've got it wrong and on monday there is going to be a heartbeat.

Thanks for your reply.

[Springflower]

Sorry to hear you are going through this. Have read both threads and it does sound like they should have seen a heartbeat by now and that it means that it is a missed miscarriage. Having to wait a week to have it confirmed seems wrong when they are quite sure so I wonder if you could have the repeat scan brought forward? I had problems with my pregancy (which resulted in a miscarriage) and I had problems with my insurance so I would suggest checking that you will be covered before deciding what your options are. The other option is just waiting for it to happen naturally but as you said above, I'm not sure that it would be the best situation for being on holiday. Good luck whatever happens / you decide.

[VillageMum]

Hi,I'm so very sorry to hear that you are going through this. It happened to me too: I was 10 wks pregnant when I discovered, on 5 September, that my baby had probably stopped growing at 6 wks. I was also told by the hospital that they didn't want to say for sure at that point and to come back for a scan a week later. Like you, I felt a week was too long to go through this agony without more information. What I did was to ask for a blood test immediately to check my hcg (pregnancy hormone levels). This might be an idea if they don't scan you on Monday (though it sounds as if they will now). You will need to have a first blood test followed by a second test 48 hrs later. The hcg level should be doubling; if it's falling, the hosp will be able to confirm a failed pregnancy within 24 hours of the second test. I'd really recommend in any case that you cancel your holiday and give yourself some time to make the right decision for you about what to do next. It will take a few days to adjust to what has happened. Hope your partner gives you the support you need. xx

[Diege]

So sorry to hear this pinkclaire. I too had a mmc at 10 weeks in July, following brown spotting. A scan confirmed no heartbeat (bean measured 7 weeks 1 day). I was given the option of coming back a week later, but didn't want to wait that long. I had a second opinion from another sonographer a few minutes later(their idea) and she sadly confirmed that my baby had died. I would strongly recommend cancelling your holiday, though I understand where you're coming from regarding wanting get away from it all. Could you plan a weekend away in a few weeks time instead? May give you something to focus on and look forward to?
Hope you make the decision that's right for you - lots of hugs, it's such an awful time

[catweazle]

Sorry to hear this pinkclaire. I had a mmc at 11 weeks and like you was told to be rescanned in a week (unlike you I was away on holiday at the time- in the UK- so they didn't want to start anything).

Just before the week was up I started bleeding and it is really scarey how much blood you lose. I went straight to A&E in the middle of the night, was admitted and had the ERPC next day.

As the others have said you really don't want to start bleeding on a plane or on a journey because pads don't hold it. Unless they can do the ERPC on Monday for you I wouldn't go away TBH.

[VillageMum]

Just to say again that I'm thinking of you and here for you if you need someone to write to, as I'm sure all the other ladies are too. All the very best of luck for tomorrow's scan and lots of hugs. x

[ellsbellzie]

Pinkclare-So sorry to hear your news I've just had a miscarriage at 6 weeks, which originally was suspected as ectopic. I understand your dilemma with the holiday. Fortunately my bleeding was like a heavy period and the pain too. If I was in your situation when mine happened personally I would have gone away, just because I would have felt doubly upset what with losing a baby and then not being able to go away too, it would of really helped me, I would of been really down sat at home having to deal with my emotions, and then thinking about the holiday im missing, but thats just me! Though I do totally understand other peoples concerns. Only you can decide, it also depends and the sort of holiday you are going on, are you are able to relax etc or is an active holiday, and is there a hospital close by, just in case, do you have your E111 card? If your in a position to change the holiday for in a months time then that would be an idea to consider!!I really do hope it turns out ok for you, my thoughts are with you!xx

[PINKCLAIRE126]

Thank you all so much for your messages. I am leaving to go to the hospital in a few minutes to have the 2nd scan and talk through my options. I havnt had any sign of bleeding yet so it will probably happen within the next few days. I will message again when i get back and let you know how i have got one.

All of you are truely special ladies for passing on your advice as it must be so hard having to remember your experiences.

Thank you

[PINKCLAIRE126]

Thank you all so much for your messages. I am leaving to go to the hospital in a few minutes to have the 2nd scan and talk through my options. I havnt had any sign of bleeding yet so it will probably happen within the next few days. I will message again when i get back and let you know how i have got one.

All of you are truely special ladies for passing on your advice as it must be so hard having to remember your experiences.

Thank you

[shazzaren]

Good luck pinkclaire today, have been watching this thread and am so sorry for you, I have had 3 ERPC's/mmc in last year as showed no signs of natural mc being imminent and I know it can take days and weeks sometimes and wanted to take some control of it. It took about 2/3 weeks for bleeding to completely stop but pleased I took this option. Good luck today. Sharon x

[Jemima123]

Hope all went OK for you pink claire. I've just come out of hospital today after going in for medical mgmt of missed mc yesterday. I had bleeding last Sat, scan on the Mon conf'd the mc. I was only measuring 5-6 wks and an "empty" sac or anembryonic preg rather than the 10.5 wks expected. I booked in for the medical mgmt but couldn't get space til Thurs for the 1st tablet then day patient for an expected 6-8 hrs yesterday. Things got going after 2-3 hrs and I had a lot of pain, but got good medication (pessary worked best). Bled heavily and passed lots of clots but no sac. I certainly wouldn't have wanted to be away, it was a scary time. After examination by dr after 9-10 hrs, I was advised to stay overnight as the cervix was still open. Managed to sleep a bit and pain/ bleeding much better today. Still no sac though. I am now booked for a further scan on Fri, then possible surgery - which I am dreading. But I think I am more afraid of passing it at home, the whole process feels like it is dragging on and I feel drained in every way. Thinking of you all...

[dan39]

Pinkclaire hope u ok. Jemima I am sorry you have had to go through this and hope it is getting better. I just wanted to say don't be too frightened of passing it at home as its small and hard to recognise - sorry if TMI - so its less traumatic than it could be. I had a mmc in April and had surgery which didn't work followed by medical management which didn't work followed by more surgery which finally worked; the procedures were okay in themselves but I did take a few weeks to recover physically and of course emotionally. FWIW I preferred the surgical option as it was quick - despite it not working the first time. But everyone is different.

Anyway thinking of you both. xx

[PheasantPlucker]

Hi PinkClaire, I hope you are OK. I had 2 mmcs. Had hospital treatment both times. Second time I had a short break already booked with my mother and sister. They persuaded me to go, as it would 'help me'. It was hideous, I just wanted to be at home with dh, rather than away in a hotel (sharing a room with them both) and feeling I couldn't cry, as it would somehow spoil their holiday. x

Jemima I hope you are Ok too. x

[Knax]

Sorry to hear that Pink Claire and Jemima and lots of hugs to both. I had a mmc in July, 11 weeks scan baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks. I feel better about it now, but would find it harder if it happened again!
Lots of luck for a healthy bean for all of us soon.