I don't know if this is the right place to post this and I don't want to cause any offence but I want to talk about how I'm feeling because I'm worried it isn't normal
I had my Mirena Coil out on the 27th January, had a positive OPK on the 10th of February and then a BFP on the 20th of February.
I was very happy but because it had all happened so quickly I'm not sure it really sank in. Me and DH went from taking steps to start TTC to then being pregnant in the space of 24 days.
For some reason, despite my happiness, the excitement that I'd had when I had been pregnant with DS (now 2yrs old) just wasn't there. I was part of a FB Antenatal group and on there I wrote about my feelings about how pregnancy just didn't feel the same this time round and how guilty I felt because of it. Maybe something in me knew that things weren't going to work out.
I continued to take HPTs over the next 7-8 days and still smiled with each BFP but I also felt a dread in the pit of my stomach because the lines were getting fainter. I obsessed on FB about it (and MN) and was reassured but something in me just didn't feel pregnant, I just felt like I wasn't going to end up with a baby.
11 days after my first BFP I took a HPT and it said negative. I took about 4 more and they all said negative too. I cried a lot that day, I was devastated
I didn't feel surprised or shocked though, I was resigned to the fact that what I suspected would happen, had.
I went to the doctors the next day and cried, my friend came over in the evening and I cried, the miscarriage then started the following day and I just kept crying. I was unbelievably sad
I had to phone work yesterday to inform them and I cried again
It has been just over 48 hours now since the miscarriage started and suddenly my raw sadness has gone. I'm still upset by what's happening but I no longer feel devastated. Maybe I'm just feeling numb, I don't know. I accept I have miscarried but I don't feel like I've lost a baby, I don't feel like I'm grieving, does that sound awful? . It's so hard to explain.
Yesterday DS was doing something spectacularly funny and me and DH were in fits of giggles with him - surely that isn't normal, surely I should be feeling worse than I am? How can I be laughing at things so soon after this has happened?
I feel so confused as to how I am feeling compared to how I think I should be feeling.
My upset and devastation from that first negative BFP was so genuine so where has it gone?
Maybe it's because I never truly felt pregnant, I just don't know.
It has helped to write all this down and I'm sorry to any offence or upset I may cause anyone by talking about my feelings.
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Writerwannabe83 · 07/03/2016 10:55
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