I recently had a mmc at 11 weeks, it came as a real shock and I am finding it harder than I ever expected. I am in my third week back at work after two weeks off.
I have severe endometriosis and have been informed we may need IVF if we fail to conceive naturally so the pregnancy was the most amazing thing to happen to us and I felt over the moon the whole time I was pregnant, whilst staying very cautious. Now the shock from being so incredibly happy to so incredibly sad is hard.
I hadn't had the chance to speak to one of my closest friends about the miscarriage until the weekend when she came to visit. She is a lovely and thoughtful friend so I know she will have considered how to tell me her news, but before we'd had the chance to discuss my miscarriage she informed me was pregnant. She didn't want to avoid telling me, and she didn't want to discuss the whole miscarriage with me and then at the end say 'guess what' - however the timing felt awful and I couldn't control my reaction and I cried... I now feel guilty and so bad that her pregnancy has caused such a reaction in me. We talked a lot and both said we are close enough to be both happy and sad for one another. Once she left I cried all evening and into the night, my reaction felt so extreme and I'm not sure my husband really understands why. For me, if I'm honest, it's both envy and knowing I'll have to watch her experience her pregnancy and baby whilst I am grieving over the loss of mine.
Sorry this is so long. Has anyone else had a close friend become pregnant at the same time as their miscarriage? How did you manage it?
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mmc at 11 weeks, best friend now pregnant
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canucks1 · 18/05/2015 13:48
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