Is there a good book you used to share loss of a baby with a toddler (2-3yr old)?

[AnxiousKeziah]

Hi,
A week after our devastating loss I have not managed to tell our little boy that he will not be having a brother. He knew there was a baby in Mummy's tummy and that it had to grow there for a while.
Wondered if anyone else found a child friendly book that expressed things in an age appropriate way. That may comfort them ( if it helps we have a Christian faith if that is in a book, not that I can get my head round that). Looked on Amazon and just have no idea.

[bakingtins]

There's one written by someone from the Miscarriage Association called "Goodbye Baby - Cameron's story" I haven't used it myself but it sounds like it was written in a v similar situation. It might at least be a starting point to explore similar books on Amazon etc.
V sorry for your loss

[AnxiousKeziah]

Thank you, will look up that one - any suggestion is helpful as my head is swirling.
Today we saw 2 people he does not really know and he said " Mummy is sad" to them and asked me after a cup of tea with them " are you better now?" So he needs something, I cannot ignore which is what I would choose to do ( wrongly so I know).

[TaytoCrisp]

So sorry for the loss of your baby anxious.

When I had a late miscarriage I told my dd who was just gone 2 at the time that mummy was sad because the baby wasn't coming anymore... But that it we be ok.. And we were still so happy and lucky that we had her, our special girl..

She just accepted that, and at least understood why I was sad, and she also knew then it was nothing to do with her. She did not ask why the baby was not able to come. I felt better saying it to her as opposed to hiding it or trying to shield her from it and I think it was good for her to know, and understand that sometimes sad things happen, but it's ok and we can still get by..

Sending you a big hug though, it must be a terribly difficult time for you.

Your little boy sounds lovely.

[Itscurtainsforyou]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Best book I found was "a star for Bobby" about a sibling dying - we used it to explain to our 2-3 year old.

I'm lucky if I can get through it without crying though...

[KittyandTeal]

This kind of thing would also be helpful for me. My toddler didn't know a baby was coming, we lost dd2 much earlier that you keziah. However, I want something to read to her at some point soon to explain.

I've tried explaining in very simple terms who dd2 is when dd1 has seen her photo. I just say 'that's dd2, she is your sister but she won't be living with us because she died'. Dd1 doesn't understand but I want something that she can grow to understand at some point iykwim.

[AnxiousKeziah]

Yes I doubt I could read any book without crying.

Tayto - sorry for your loss. Your words are most helpful ( lots of support for bringing a baby home but as I am discovering no advice for when one cannot).

Kitty - yes a book for your dd sounds a good idea, so they know why sad/why hurt and yet love them etc. I do not want my boy to think it is his fault, to have thoughts that are not appropriate but I think this may affect me for some time so cannot hide it, nor do I want it to affect our relationship.