Misscarriage at 7 weeks

[Lauramum23]

Hello everyone I'm new to this, feel a bit awful for posting when so many of you have been through some horrid horrid losses.
But I'm hoping I can get some advice. Firstly I've had 4 pregnancies. My children are 11,8,5 i am extremely lucky all of them are healthy and I never had any bleeding or problems in pregnancy. So anyway got real broody and decided we would have one more. Got pregnant first month of trying and last Wednesday started bleeding right after I'd seen the midwife! I was 7 weeks bleeding steadily increased from brown blood to a lot if red. The scan showed a sac but nothing inside. Anyway I'm sure the big bits have now come out. I'm supposed to go back to check if any changes as they couldn't say for sure. But because I was bleeding and the sac was irregular in shape it was a likely miscarriage.
Do I bother going back as it's out of town I can have one done here later to make sure everything's passed?
Also when do I do a pregnancy test to check if it negative, shall I just get cheap ones?
I'm keen to crack on ttc or should I wait till period?
I feel ok about it all and I'm glad it happened now rather than later on it must be awful to find out at 12 week scan. And also later on in pregnancies. Sorry for big essay think I needed to write it down hope someone can help xxxxx

[bakingtins]

Sorry for your loss laura

It's a good idea to go back and have a follow up scan to ensure the miscarriage is complete, but I don't think it matters where that happens, go where is most convenient.
Any pregnancy test is fine to check for a negative, don't be surprised if it takes a fortnight or so to get there, the hormone can hang around for a while.
It really is a good idea to wait for AF before TTC again. The given reason is that it makes it easier to date a future pregnancy, but I think it's more relevant that lining may be poor that first cycle, possibly with retained fragments. Women often report that first AF is either heavy and clotty, or very light ( usually after ERPC) either of which would give poor conditions for implantation. Anecdotally a lot of women seem to have back to back MC if they concieved straight away, though it is also sometimes fine.

[Lauramum23]

I think I better be sensible and give it a month. I've just done a test I suppose I'm trying to put it behind me, felt a bit upset when it came back positive it's a kick in the teeth. I keep telling myself it was only early etc and I should just get on. But it is upsetting and I thought seen as tho I've bled so much it must all be out! But I'd better give it a fortnight then check and I'd better wait for a period. I know it's just for dates but if I got pregnant and have a scan they then say congratulations it's perfect for 7 weeks when I should be 12 weeks it would be devastating/ upsetting again. One day at a time I suppose

[bakingtins]

You are allowed to be upset, it's a horrible thing to go through and most women need to grieve for a lost baby/ future to some extent. Don't bottle it up, it will only come back to bite you in the bum later. I'm sure you are holding it together for your kids, but make sure you get space and time to process it at some point.

[ladydoc]

Sorry for your loss. Please don't feel silly for being upset - a loss is a loss, and it's normal to be grieving. I have had a few people say things to try to cheer me up like "at least it was early on", and I found that pretty hurtful. To me, it was a baby no matter how early. I agree that it would probably be even worse later on, but that doesn't stop it hurting.

I agree that it is important to get a follow-up scan, as you want to make sure that it is complete. I had a different situation (failed medical management, then ERPC) so it didn't apply to me though.

I know what you mean about still seeing the positive test - it hurts a lot to see it, but know that the pregnancy has ended. I had a really weird happy feeling when I saw my negative test - seemed strange as usually you don't want a negative one!

Good luck for when you try again x

[Brummiegirl15]

I'm so sorry for your loss. As Baking said a first post mc AF can be very hit and miss. My first AFafter an ERPC was so light and short I'm fairly sure it wouldn't have sustained anything so it really is best to wait.

Again I'd also echo doing the test. Mine took 3 weeks before becoming negative, but when it did finally I was relieved - as it meant my body was returning to normal and I could start thinking about TTC again