I have never written on a forum in my life, but I have found some comfort over the last few weeks reading other people's stories on here so I thought it was time to share mine.
I was happily pregnant with my first baby until 3 weeks ago.
My pregnancy was very stressful since the first scan and DS screening tests. We thought nothing of it until 3 weeks later when i received a phone call to say the risk of DS was 1 in 5. I was devastated. 2 days later I went in for a CVS, and 3 days after that I was given the all clear. The emotional roller coaster was horrendous but we felt that we could get on with enjoying the pregnancy now we'd had the all clear.
That turned out not to be the case. 2 weeks later I received a phone call to say the baby had trisomy 22 and they needed to do further tests in order to establish whether it was confined to the placenta. I went in for the amnio and a week later they confirmed that the baby was mosaic trisomy 22 as well. A week later we saw a genetics counselor and we decided to terminate the pregnancy as the prognosis was not good for the baby - it was unlikely it would make full term. The next day I was given a tablet to induce labour and 48 hours later I was in the labour ward with contractions and waiting to give birth. It all seemed to be happening so quickly and I didn't know what was going to happen - it's my first child and I had no idea how the labour would go. My little girl was born at exactly 20 weeks on the 29th September.
I don't have any regrets about the decision we made, but I feel so down. I don't know what I am supposed to feel or how to deal with the feelings of immense loss, it's not something I've ever experienced before. My OH is doing great and was back at work after a week - he found the distraction helped him. My work requested I return yesterday and I did, but I feel like I'm only there in body and not in mind. I feel very lost, empty and emotional, always on the brink of tears and unsure about where to turn. I feel as though I have become a mother but don't have the baby to show for it.
I have never reached out for help before, I have always been the strong one and everyone keeps reminding me I am strong and will get through this, right now I'm struggling to believe that and feel that I need to just put a brave face on it all.
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twinklingstar29 · 22/10/2013 16:58
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