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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Empty sac at 8 week scan ;(

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Chattycat78 · 13/10/2013 09:13

We went for an early scan yesterday because I 'd been having some spotting. Saying that it did n t prepare me for the news that the sac was there but no baby :(. I was given the horrible tablets to take after a 2 hour wait and sent home. We ve been wandering the house like zombies ever since. So far nothing has yet happened and I m scared and dreading it. I m also due back to work tomorrow - I work full time, and don t know what to do. No one at work knew yet, but the thought of going in and it starting at work is awful, plus I feel very upset and emotional. Any advice?

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justmuddlingalongsomehow · 13/10/2013 09:17

Oh Chatty how horrible for you both. I would phone in sick for a couple of days. It took me about 10 days to recover physically but I was further along than you. Be gentle with each other. It is so cruel to have your dreams crushed. and lots of .

DownstairsMixUp · 13/10/2013 09:21

I'm sorry to hear this :( I suffered a blighted ovum only last month but i went the surgical route and had an erpc, i went back to work only after a day but this was because i don't get sick pay so couldn't afford the time off. If you can I would defintely take at least a week off to recover physically and emotionally. It does get easier as time goes on but you will experience a range of emotions at first which are completely normal. As i said i didn't take the tablets but keep stocked up on painkillers and a hot water bottle helps.

Take care

HollyBen · 13/10/2013 09:29

So sorry to hear this chatty. I had exactly the same experience in 2010. Went to EPU at 10 weeks due to a bit of spotting. Had a scan to see an empty sac. I was completely floored. I had been suffering really badly from nausea, heightened sense of smell and tenders boobs. No one knew we we even trying and it had taken 8 months to get a BFP. I opted for the surgical route so I have no first hand experience of the tablets. However I think you should be planning some time of work as it may take time physically and even longer emotionally. I had a weeks wait between my scan and the ERPC and went back to work 4 days after the procedure.

Take care of yourself and please give yourself time to recover. A MC is an awful time. My thoughts are with you x

Chattycat78 · 13/10/2013 09:30

Thanks guys. I had no idea this has happened to so many other people too- I guess it's just not talked about. I kind of wish I d not got pregnant now because its like someone dangling a carrot in front of u and then taking it away :( also when would u suggest ttc again? Although the thought of that is scary too :(

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HollyBen · 13/10/2013 09:54

Hi chatty. Your right it just isn't talked about. I never told many people about MC1 but those I did all had a that happened to me, oh my sister/friend story to help. It's an odd one. Knowing so many others have been through it is both comforting and awful at the same time.

As for TTC, whenever you are ready is the answer. Docs advise waiting until after next AF but this is really for dating purposes. After MC1 I waited until after my next AF and got a BFP on cycle 2. DD was born almost 12 months after the MC and is now 2.5. I started TTC DC2 in April this year and unfortunately had another MC at 9 weeks a month ago. For me It is no more awful second time round. I feel I have coped better emotionally this time but it took its toll physically and I had 2 weeks off work. Although not actively TTC we have DTD with no protection and I hopefully/scared as cd31 and no sign of AF.

DownstairsMixUp · 13/10/2013 10:13

Hi chatty as holly said they do advise waiting one cycle but this is for dating purposes. If you use OPK's to track ovulation you'd have a rough idea of dates anyway. I sometimes think they advise waiting a month for the emotional side of things to. When you want to ttc is entirely up to you and when you feel ready. For me and my DP we have just not been preventing really and I've used OPK's just so i can have a rough idea when AF will appear as i was advised the first one after m/c could be heavy. I ovulated about two weeks after I stopped bleeding from the erpc but this will vary for everyone. HTH :)

Happilymarried155 · 13/10/2013 12:41

Hi chatty,
I'm really sorry for your loss. I experienced this just two weeks ago and went on to miscarry naturally at 10 weeks, a week later. It really is a horrible feeling but I wanted you to know your aren't alone.

Look after yourself and spend lots of time with your dh. Much love x

Chattycat78 · 13/10/2013 13:01

Thanks:) I appreciate that Happily. It's nice to know there are others who understand although I m really sorry there are so many of us:( good luck for ttc next time. Btw did u have any time off work? I m trying o decide what to do. I don t want to be a baby about it, but very frightened of it starting at work in a meeting or something :(

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Forester · 13/10/2013 15:21

Sorry you are going through this .

I had ERPC after my two MMC's so don't have experience of a medical miscarriage but I don't think you should be going back to work at the moment. I had about a week off after my MC's - but I had both ERPC's almost straight-away. But irrespective of the physical side of things nearly everyone needs to take time off to start to deal with the emotional side of things - and certainly reading other posts many people seem to be off for longer than a week. (And those that have gone back quickly have regretted it). I didn't tell work the real reason but if I'd needed to take longer off I probably would have.

Also when the time comes there are TTC after MC and PG after MC ongoing threads that you can join which are very helpful.

But take care of yourself over the next few days - you are allowed to grieve.

cookielove · 13/10/2013 15:30

So sorry to hear this, its so devastating finding out this way, we found out our baby died at 8 + 6 at our 12 week scan. I choose to have a ERPC. Couldn't face the possibility of seeing it. Your so brave going down this path. Thinking of you and your partner during these tough times. I had mine two weeks tomorrow and had the week after it off. So was back at work on Monday.

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duvetheaven · 13/10/2013 16:50

Sorry for your loss Chattycat. I had a similar experience in 2006 at about 10 weeks. I opted for the medical management but it went of for weeks so had to have ERPC in the end . I also had an ERPC for another MC in 2007 and it brings the physical side of a MC to a definite end.
I would definitely take time off work if you can as will probably be hard to focus on anything else. Rest as much as you can and there is lots of helpful information on MN especially when TTC again. Also take a look at The Miscarriage Association website which has helpful info.
Be kind to yourself and take it easy x

Bakingtins · 13/10/2013 22:19

Chattycat I'm so sorry you are facing this. I agree with the others, don't even think of going into work tomorrow. Quite apart from the physical side it is a huge shock and your emotions will be all over the place. You don't need to tell them why at this stage if you don't want to, though it is worth bearing in mind if you feel you need a couple of weeks off that pregnancy related sickness does not go on your employment record.
My experience with medical management is it all started about 4-6 hours after taking the pessaries, and I had 2 doses 24 hours apart. I didn't have the oral tablets because my cervix was already opening, wasn't quite clear from your post which you'd been given today. I would make sure there is a plan B if the medical management is not successful at starting the miscarriage off, it would be good to have an ERPC pencilled in so you are not left hanging around if it doesn't work.

HollyBen · 14/10/2013 14:55

How are today Chatty? Thinking of you

Chattycat78 · 14/10/2013 15:07

Hey yeah similar really but thanks for asking. Off work but unfortunately waiting for these tablets to kick in and absolutely nothing at all has happened which I am sure is not right! I could end up with the ERPC anyway at this rate! I also feel like a fraud not being at work as at this moment I don t actually feel ill!

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HollyBen · 14/10/2013 15:25

I think I was told it could take up to 3 days to kick in when discussing the options? So there is time yet. Can you phone the EPU and ask them for some reassurance?

Do not feel like a fraud for being of work. You are not ill as such. Aside from the physical side you need to deal with the emotions- you have suffered a bereavement and need time to recover. I felt exactly like this when I went to the docs and he signed me off for a second week. Take care of yourself and I hope things are over soon x

DownstairsMixUp · 14/10/2013 17:23

Hi chatty sorry to hear that. If it does end up in the erpc honestly, they are so simple and straight forward and emotionally it was better as i woke up and it was all done. I only bled two weeks then it was just emotionally i need to recover. x

thistlelicker · 14/10/2013 17:30

I had eprc in December and almost had 4 weeks off work! Just take it a week at a time. Id certainly have this week off! You don't want people asking questions. I also had medical management for mc1 in 2008 and tmi alert tips like a massive hemorrhage, the last place I think you should be is work!!

Sorry your having to experience this!

Chattycat78 · 14/10/2013 17:52

Thanks guys. I think part of the issue is not knowing what to expect. It sounds like from what Thistle has said that work might be out of the question! Also sorry to hear about your experiences too:(

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