In process of miscarriage

[Luisa72]

Had brown discharge first last Sunday and then started going red towards end of week. Had an early scan yesterday before my planned 12 week one and it showed baby of 7 weeks length with no heartbeat. Was all a bit confusing as the person doing the scan said really sorry you have lost the baby and the doc said chance it may be ok as dates might have been wrong. Advised to wait a week and see what happened before having another scan. Last night I passed two medium sized clots and then from 5am til about 10am had waves of deep abdominal aches/pains and lots more blood. From 10 til now not much blood at all and pain seems to have gone. I don't understand whats happening. Do you think its finished? How will I know? I wish I could do a scan myself to see what was happening. Glad the pain has subsided but not if I've got an incomplete miscarriage. Any wisdom or advice much appreciated. Experience at hospital yesterday was very impersonal and confusing.

[Rummikub]

I think you need to go back to doc/ hospital. So sorry for your loss

[Hessy]

Luisa, this is very much like what I'm going through. I have had only light bleeding and no pain since Saturday morning when I was doubled over in the worst pain and passed a large clot.

I was beginning to feel that maybe it was all over and began to think about getting up and about. I rang my epu to see if I could have my scan brought forward (they'd said wait two weeks) and the woman I spoke to quite rudely said I should wait and not use the drop in service as they always see women who think they've finished miscarrying but that it starts again. She almost threatened me that if I came in early and had a scan and I hadn't finished I'd be pushed back another two weeks.

Sorry not to have any wisdom for you. Just wanted to say you weren't alone. And also to express my frustration with how I've been spoken to by the healthcare specialists I've dealt with since this whole thing began.

So sorry for your loss. I have found great comfort posting here; there are so many lovely warm abd supportive women sharing their wisdom. I hope you do too. X

[Luisa72]

Thanks so much both of you. Have phoned EPU just now and she said I've either completed as baby would have been very small at 10mm or there was more to come. Just had to sit it out and see. Cant believe all us women have to go through as well as feeling grief for all that could have been. It is horrendous - the waiting, the uncertainty and the pain. And I had insensitivity from NHS Direct and the pharmacy attached to my gp surgery organising delivery of strong painkillers. I'm really sorry to hear of your loss too Hessy. This is awful but we have got to hang on haven't we. We must.

[Forester]

I'm sorry for your loss .

I haven't had a natural MC myself - both my MMC's ended with a ERPC so don't have any practical advice. But I'm sorry that you're not getting sympathetical support from the medical profession. (My personal gripe is with the midwives as I haven't heard anything from them since I had my second MC two weeks ago).

Take care of yourself over the next few days - it's a tough time.

[Rummikub]

I had a similar experience (no heartbeat after 5 weeks) but had a d & c after. Don't knowif it was necessary. I requested it as I was worried I hadn't finished. It's a horrible thing to go through. I am so sorry that you both had unkind insensitive staff to deal with.

[lighthousesea]

Sorry for you loses everyone :(

Forester I think the midwives are advised not to contact you as it's seen to be insensitive (unless you have had a much later mc).

I phoned mine to let her know and she was lovely on the phone and very supportive. I'm sure they would be willing to talk to you if you needed a bit if support over the phone?

[Iamnotaplastichag]

Hi Luisa - I hope you are ok and you have some clarity on what has happened. I had a similar experience. I had a MMC at 10 weeks. The baby had stopped developing at 6 weeks. I was also confused by the information I was given at the EPU - there was mention of miscarriage but also booked me in for a scan in a week to check if the baby had grown at all in the week. I thought I was waiting to see if I would miscarry but in fact it had started. I had very similar pattern to you but then on day 2 after scan and day after having the clots and bleeding I passed a very obvious sac. I know this doesn't always happen though. I kept on getting cramps and bleeding and some other 'residue' after that but it all calmed down a lot. I hope this helps x

[Luisa72]

Thanks so much everyone. It does seem to be calming down now but am absolutely washed out, am pale and listless. Obviously grieving but I'm wondering if I should get blood pressure and bloods tested to see if ok after all that. Im glad I stayed at home but you don't get access to regular checks if at home. What if a blood transfusion was needed? How would I know? Does it ever get to that? I had a craving for Mars Bars, never eat them usually....but reckoned I was craving glucose and iron maybe? Any suggestions? Have GP booked Monday but only Friday. This pain goes on and on doesn't it? Luisa

[Bakingtins]

You need to bleed fairly spectacularly to need a transfusion. I lost 2 litres of blood after having DS and was still borderline for if they'd transfuse me ( they did in the end). However it doesn't take much of a dip in your iron levels to make you feel washed out. GP can check your haemoglobin level and would prescribe iron tablets if they were low. I've normally gone for the self-help options of either Spatone drinks or Floradix tonic as the tablets disagree with me.
Rest up, eat some iron-rich foods ( I prescribe steak with wilted spinach, and some sort of apricot pudding) and make sure you are being looked after. It is enormously emotionally and physically draining, give yourself chance to recover.

[Luisa72]

Thanks so much. Really helpful. xx

[Bakingtins]

How are you feeling, Luisa?