11+2 and just started bleeding

(26 Posts)
AhoyMcCoy Wed 31-Jul-13 18:44:47

11weeks two days today- it's my first pregnancy. Had a few cramps last night but no where near as strong as "period cramps", more just like twinges. Found some dark red blood, but not much, in my underwear just now.

If I go to my local A&E, is there anything they can do? My 12 week scan isn't until next Wednesday- I can't wait a week of not knowing. sad

They may well have a portable ultra sound they can use. When I had a bleed at a weekend I was asked to come back on the Sunday and they scanned in X-ray department. I think it's worth going to get checked out. sad

Hope everything's ok.

spanky2 England Wed 31-Jul-13 18:57:11

Go to a&e this is why we pay national insurance . You won't be wasting anyone's time. You need some medical help. I hope that it is okay .thanks

AhoyMcCoy Wed 31-Jul-13 19:00:41

Thank you so much, both of you. DH driving me to A&E now. Fingers crossed.xx

Fingers crossed for you x

katatonic Wed 31-Jul-13 20:23:38

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AhoyMcCoy Wed 31-Jul-13 21:57:23

Thank you, all of you. I went to A&E who said they will refer to me the Early Pregnany Unit tonight, and they will ring me tomorrow to book me in for the earliest scan they can.

The bleeding isn't too heavy, but the cramping is pretty strong now, so I think I'm definitely losing our little bubbalingo sad My morning sickness was so bad from week six that I spent every day thinking "god I wish this was over, I can't cope with feeling like this" and now I'd give anything to have my sickness back.

Will come back to update after my scan, but am preparing for the worst now.

sad I hope you get your scan soon and it's not dragged out to long. I'm sorry it's not looking so good. Please try to rest and take it easy. sad x

Bakingtins Thu 01-Aug-13 07:42:36

Thinking of you today AhoyMcCoy I hope the news is better than you fear.

Ilovemypajamas Thu 01-Aug-13 08:28:51

Good luck Ahoy. Thinking of and rooting for you.

AhoyMcCoy Thu 01-Aug-13 09:42:55

Thank you so much. Kind words mean a lot- I'm desperate to text my family who knew and ask them to keep bump in their prayers but don't want to worry them until we know for "definite".

The bleeding and cramping got worse in the night- the cramps were so bad I could barely talk through them, and there was just so much blood sad so even without the scan I'm sure I 'know' I've lost it, but DH is so positive- he's googled so many stories of women who cramp and bleed and even pass clots but all is ok, but I just know I won't be one of them.

EPU says earliest they can see me is 9:45am tomorrow, so just sitting at home today really. Will let you know it it goes tomorrow.

KoalaFace England Thu 01-Aug-13 09:50:57

I'm thinking of you Ahoy

I was just where you are over Easter weekend. I also just knew. DH was doing his googling and being positive. But I knew.

A poster on here told me "hope for the best and prepare for the worst." That's all we can do.

Sending you a hug and my thoughts.

Oh that sucks ahoy I'm sorry you have to wait so long for your scan. sad

Please rest up , have a hot bath and put on your jammies. If ever there was a time for hot tea and cake this is it.

I will be thinking of you
((( hugs ))?

AhoyMcCoy Thu 01-Aug-13 20:17:24

The cramping got almost unbearable - like what I would imagine actual contractions to be like, and I 'passed' it. I actually picked the little sac out of the toilet bowl because I needed to be sure. I'm so so gutted. For DH as much as anything- it's his 30th birthday this weekend and he was so looking forward to telling people.

We had a big party planned and neither of us have our hearts in it now. He's been talking to my belly since the day we found out and waking me up each morning by kissing it and singing to it- I told him off for waking me up and said the baby couldn't hear yet, and he said "Well they used to think the world was flat and they were wrong, so I'm not taking a chance on this 'your baby can't hear you yet' thing!".

I know we'll try again and maybe get lucky next time (we've only been married 9 weeks- found out the day we got back from honeymoon!) so I'm sure it will happen again, but I know we'll worry never relax now until we're holding a little baby.

So so so sorry to those of you who have been through similar. Your kind words helped so much more than the hospital did. I am truly grateful to all who gave their thoughts and time.

katatonic Thu 01-Aug-13 20:19:57

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BreasticlesNTesticles Thu 01-Aug-13 20:22:04

You poor poor thing sad

Lots of thanks to you x

chocolatefrog Thu 01-Aug-13 20:47:14

So sorry for what you are going through. It's shit isn't it sad

So sorry ahoy sad x

Pawprint Thu 01-Aug-13 23:28:47

I'm so sad for you - I had four miscarriages before my son was born, but they were earlier than your loss.

It must be awful for you and so traumatic. I miscarried my first baby just a few months after I got married and it was like a massive bereavement sad

Hugs xxx

Ruggle Fri 02-Aug-13 23:26:45

AhoyMcoy, so sorry you've gone through this too. I lost my little person on Sunday, also at 11 weeks and 2 days, also my first pregnancy. It's utterly devastating but I keep hearing how common it is....1 in 4 pregnancies..and I am so scared it will happen again...but we are going to try, maybe in a few months.

DearlyDepartedMrsFinch Fri 02-Aug-13 23:31:51

So, so sorry ahoy.

I lost my baby at 11+4 at the end of April. You will get through this. Be kind to yourself.

AhoyMcCoy Sat 03-Aug-13 16:18:54

Argh! It all just sucks so bad, doesn't it? It's so unfair. This baby was so so wanted, and so loved, and it's not fair.

It's DH's 30th, and were having a BBQ right now with about 40 people. It was me who insisted it went ahead- I didn't want him to remember his birthday with tears and sadness, and I thought it would be good for him to see how much love and support we have. But I'm sitting in our bedroom on my own, because its all so overwhelming. There are friends out there I've literally known my entire life, and I don't know what to talk about now. I feel like I'm just nodding along to things and I just want to climb back into bed and cry.

Having a baby was the one thing I could do to make DH happier than anything in the whole world, and I can't do it sad

ChocolateOrangeforDd Sat 03-Aug-13 16:38:40

But ....you will do it Ahoy. It's just that this time it wasn't meant to be. It's natural for you to mourn this loss too. I've been there and it will get easier. Sending hugs (()).

DearlyDepartedMrsFinch Sat 03-Aug-13 19:47:13

Oh, you poor thing ahoy. Chocolate is right, this will get easier.

I found great comfort in the friends and family who offered their time and sympathy after our MC (we told a lot of friends after the loss). Well done you for still going ahead with the BBQ (although it is completely natural that it should feel so overwhelming).

I'm not sure whether this will help, but I also felt extremely 'lucky' that the baby died when it did, and not later. And gratitude, that there was not a problem found later that would lead us to having to make a heartbreaking decision. Hugs flowers. Perhaps think about telling a close friend or two, so you have someone to talk to?

spanky2 England Sat 03-Aug-13 20:13:56

I am so sorry . It is a bereavement . I think you have to take each day as it comes. Love to you and your husband . thanks

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