Bad stomach pains and light bleeding :-(

[Sarah5656]

3am Friday morning I woke up with very bad lower stomach pains ( 5+5 weeks). Saturday morning I went over to the out of hours doctors at the hospital. Whilst in the toilet there I started bleeding ( very light bright red blood).
They have booked me in for a scan on Tuesday.
Saturday day ( yesterday) I still had bad pains mostly when moving and just a little bit of blood when wiping ( nothing on the towel) the bleeding then stopped in the evening and last night... This morning I've woken up still with lower stomach pains but not as painful and have started to bleed again ( again very light )... I'm going crazy not knowing if I'm loosing my baby or not, but am hopeful I'm not passing clots.
Has anyone else gone through the same experience?
A very sad, worried Sarah :-(

[notnowImreading]

Oh, I'm really sorry but that doesn't sound good. I had almost exactly the same experience when I was miscarrying. The clots came in after about 24 hours for me. The problem is that there's really not much you can do at this stage except rest up, whether it's miscarriage or not. I felt alright physically apart from period-like cramps so didn't spend much time resting, but wished I had later. The waiting to find out is the worst thing, but I think you need to prepare yourself for bad news. Take care of yourself and tell your close friend/family and let them take care of you too.

[notnowImreading]

I meant to say, too, that if you prepare yourself for bad news and everything turns out to be fine, the relief will be all the greater. Some people with bleeding go on to have healthy pregnancies. Just because my experience was of miscarriage doesn't mean yours will be. Very mixed messages here I know- I feel guilty for being the voice of doom when you might not need to hear it. The sympathy's real though - whatever the outcome, I know how hard it is to wait to find out.

[Sarah5656]

Now have clots of blood
I'm not holding out much hope
This is so awful, I feel very lucky as already have two healthy beautiful children but am still finding this hard to deal with.
Sorry to you too for also having had to go through this, it really is awful

[philbee]

Hi sarah5656. I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this :(. I miscarried a month ago, and it started with light bleeding, then cramps, and then heavy bleeding and clots. It is a horrible thing to go through, and very intense and scary while it's happening, I found. I already have a daughter as well, and feel very lucky to have her, but it's still a very difficult thing. Have you got someone there with you to look after you and make sure you're OK, have enough to drink etc.?

[Sarah5656]

Yes thank you Philbee I have my husband here. My PIL have got the children ( luckily it's school holidays) sleeping at theirs. Have been putting my feet up but it's so difficult to relax when your constantly worrying
Sorry you also had to go through this

[Mama5isalive]

sarah - my thought and prayers go out to you at this very sad time.
my experience was no pain and discovered lost our baby at 12 week scan. although i have other children the sadness of this loss hurt alot mentally! a month on and thankfully just had my first AF since my ERPC op, so healing inside and out and awaiting to see if my body is ready, if i will get pregnant again! all the best to you and your family. please talk about your feelings with your husband for you will really need him through the up coming months to get you through!
xx

[Sarah5656]

Mama5 so sorry for your lose too, especially as you had no pains or anything to tell you something was wrong... I suppose at least when I go for my scan tomorrow I already know something's not right (although it's still going to be horrible) It must be awful to not expect anything then be told such devastating news... My sympathies are also with you, as well as the other ladies on this post.
Have woken up this morning with very little stomach pain and no bleeding but lots of nausea still... Clots yesterday turned out just to be two tiny little ones, about the size of a grain of rice, I thought it was the start of more and they would get bigger but happy to say that they haven't... I'm still keeping my fingers well and truly crossed and holding onto that small glimmer of hope.
My husband has been fantastic, I've not had to do a thing over the last few days
We have both sat and talked through things but have tried not to think too negatively, although it's hard.
9.45 am tomorrow I suppose we will know one way or the other, I've never wanted a day to arrive so badly but yet again I don't want it to ever be Tuesday morning

[Sarah5656]

Just to update... I went for my scan yesterday they found a baby with heart beat but unfortunately was an ectopic pregnancy.
Had to have emergency operation to remove baby and my right fallopian tube.. It had started to rupture so am very lucky they operated when they did
Am now lying in a hospital bed this morning having to deal with my perfectly normal healthy baby being taken out of me as it was growing in the wrong place whilst trying to feel lucky I'm still ok and alive this is very hard to deal with

[rosalina72]

I'm so sorry for your loss Sarah. There's nothing I can say at this time that will make it better. Just be kind to yourself and let others look after you. Cry and let it all out if you need to. Find someone in real life as well that will listen to you and support you as you will probably want to talk about your baby and your experience.

Btw, not sure if you will find this any consolation right now but I know 2 people that have gone to have lovely healthy babies after ectopic pregnancy and loss of one fallopian tube.

Thinking of you xxxx

[notnowImreading]

Oh Sarah
I'm so sorry to hear that.