coping and answers - not really getting my head round either.

[stmalo]

I miscarried 2 weeks ago at 14.5 weeks, I had a bit of a time of it in A&E, ending in emergency erpc. I thought at the weekend I was doing ok, but now back at work and just want to cry all the time. I think half the problem is not being able to tell anyone, close friends and family knew, but 2 weeks after a traumatic event, and I'm back at work as if I've been off with a cold. I don't feel that I need more time off either - I'm just not getting my head round things.

I have searched and searched the internet for answers, but find nothing.
I have a follow up appointment in June, but can't help thinking I'm just going to get the "it happens" speech.

I have questions, I was certain of my dates, that would have made my 16.5 weeks - but baby measured 2 weeks smaller on all scans. I was put on labetalol for raised blood pressure and asprin. My blood pressure since the miscarriage has dropped to normal and I've not taken labetalol since. This to me doesn't seem right - but I can find lots about pre eclampsia in later pregnancy but not before 20 weeks.

And when things were going very wrong in A&E I was asked at least 5 times what tablets I was taking, and everytime I said Asprin, I was asked WHY? My GP said not to worry about being asked that, and that asprin is commonly prescribed in pregnancy, it's left me confused.....

Also when I posted a few days after the miscarriage, a few people mentioned incompetent cervix, but, I had full on contractions before my waters broke, then delivered the baby an hour or so later. From what I can read online you don't get contractions with IC - anyone confirm that?

Thank you everyone.

[minmooch]

Hi stmalo

I am very sorry for your loss. I can't answer your questions about IC but did not want your post to go unanswered.

I have had 8 miscarriages and lost my identical twin daughters to TTTS at 21 weeks. Although we have answers for losing our daughters all the other miscarriages are a mystery despite many, many, many tests. I think it is rare to find out any real answers to why we miscarry.

As to Asprin - I have been on asprin during my pg. But I think it is given for many reasons so perhaps they were making sure there were no other reasons for your taking it.

I have told very few people about my miscarriages - don't want the 'well perhaps you should give up trying' speech. It does make you feel very lonely which is why it is great to have a place here to speak and be honest about how you are feeling. To be honest I don't think those who have not been through it can completely understand the devastation that miscarriage brings.

Remember your hormones will be all over the place, it takes a while for your body to level all hormones.

Wishing you gentle days and hope that someone comes along to answer your questions on IC.

[silverangel]

I'm sorry for your loss Stmalo. No advice I'm afraid but didnt want this to go unanswered.

I had a mmc back in December and took two weeks off work - are you sure you have taken enough time off. Even if you have physically recovered some more time off may help you to get your head around things and come to terms with what happened.

Best wishes.

[deardoctor]

St Malo demand ask to be checked for blood clotting probs such as Hughes' (antiphospholipid syndrome) and Factor V Leiden. Its worth checking given your BP and small baby.

Think you were too early to be incompetent cervix given the size of your baby and the pain to be honest. Most ICs are 17-22 week losses though the cervix may start to efface earlier.

Sorry for your loss.

[stmalo]

thanks everyone for your advice, today has been a good day, nothing happened to make it a good day, but I feel ok today! I will definately look into Hughes and factor V Leiden, Thank you again everyone, it's good to talk x