Cheerful is perhaps the wrong word. After starting spotting on Friday, progressing to bleeding and cramping, I spent all Sunday doubled over with full on contractions every 3 minutes and today had what I really already knew confirmed with a scan. Missed miscarriage at 7 weeks into pregnancy, although I am just over 12 weeks and scan was booked in for today. I keep veering between all sorts of emotions and of course am very sad, it was horrible seeing the little still blob on the screen. All those dreams gone. And I still need to expel what's there so bound to have another few days of body-wringing contractions, the pain has been immense.
BUT - at least I now know the outcome and can start to move forward.
I was hoping you might be able to join me in thinking of reasons to be cheerful:
- Wine! Gosh do I need to go out and let off some steam. It's been so stressful hiding the pregnancy, sickness, weight gain etc from my friends it will be great to go out, drink wine and maybe go dancing to just HAVE SOME FUN rather than be at home tired, sober and worried.
-Clothes. I intend to treat myself to a few new seasons items. It's been tough not quite fitting into all my own clothes (my boobs and tummy grew quite rapidly) not wanting to tempt fate and buy anything maternity specific until after the 12 week scan - fat lot of good that superstition did me, but hey.
-The weather. It's getting better all the time, spring is upon us it will get warmer and lighter and so will everyone's mood. Can't wait!
-Making new plans: Although I couldn't help but get a bit excited and look forward to it, I was holding out making baby plans until after the scan. It's sad to see those plans go but now I can make definite non-baby plans - travel past August, holidays, nights out, gigs....I just want to do nice things with my DH, with my friends and feel positive about life before maybe trying again some time in the future.
-Being happy and (soon, hopefully) pain free: Am so fed up of being miserable and in abject pain the last few days. I know there is still physical and emotional nastiness to come and I don't underestimate the hormones and emotions that might continue to affect me, but hopefully by doing some of the above I can look forward and the worst will hopefully soon be over.
Of course I have a lot of fears about whether this will happen again and am having quite a few low moments but this post is about reasons to be cheerful! So cheerful I am trying to be... :)
Anyone else? xx