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Wish I'd done NCT!

(20 Posts)
user1474439326 Wed 28-Sep-16 21:33:11

So I didn't do NCT as I wasn't sure what it was all about and now everyone I know has NCT mates except me and I don't know anyone who lives nearby with a baby the same age - I keep seeing all these groups of woman out in coffee shops and I'm jealous!!! I live in Crawley, West Sussex

AidingAndAbetting Wed 28-Sep-16 21:38:31

Besides antenatal classes, the NCT also run coffee mornings and meet ups for new parents. If you google, there should be a list of ones local to you. You could also try localy organised baby groups. I used to go to some in church halls which were great.

Teahornet Wed 28-Sep-16 21:42:54

But you don't have to have done an NCT course or indeed be a member to attend NCT coffee mornings or other events. I hated my NCT group, and met much nicer people going along to the local coffee mornings. Some of those groups you are seeing in cafes may not be NCT course groups meeting, but just random people meeting under the NCT banner. Look up what's on in your area.

EsmesBees Wed 28-Sep-16 21:43:59

Have you got a local FB parents page? It can be a great way to meet others on maternity leave. I often see posts on the local ones asking if anyone wants to meet for a coffee.

Twerking9to5 Wed 28-Sep-16 21:46:41

Check out where your local family centre is (they used to be called sure start centres if that helps google searching). They usually run free groups and it's a good place to meet people. And look out for a magazine called family grape vine (often in libraries/leisure centres) as they list loads of things for parents! Good luck.

Twerking9to5 Wed 28-Sep-16 21:47:28

Ps. I didn't do NCT either, just met people through the groups I mentioned!

MrsOs Wed 28-Sep-16 21:48:58

I never did nct either! Feel exactly the same..

T0ddlerSlave Wed 28-Sep-16 21:57:45

I did nct and my group didn't gel. Least you didn't waste your money.

user1474439326 Wed 28-Sep-16 22:05:08

Thanks all! I do go to groups and stuff but haven't quite got to the meeting up another time stage. We do 2 groups and a week and water babies I feel about 7 years old asking if people want to be my friend grin

DontBuyANewMumCashmere Wed 28-Sep-16 22:08:27

I had a great group of NCT friends and we 'adopted' another woman who hadn't done it - a few of us met her in a group and tool her in to our group. Even the women who hadn't met her at the group connected with her and nearly 2 years later we all still meet up.
You just need to collar a few women after a rhyme time or early days group or suggest a coffee. Good luck OP.

janethegirl2 Wed 28-Sep-16 22:14:17

I did NCT and they were all so far up each other's arses, I gave up after about 3 meetings. I guess it depends where you live if it will work for you. it was my worst nightmare

user1474439326 Wed 28-Sep-16 22:15:54

Ha ha yeah I gather it's not for everyone!
Maybe I need to be brace and just ask!

user1474439326 Wed 28-Sep-16 22:16:26

Brave even!!!!

Twerking9to5 Wed 28-Sep-16 22:22:40

Definitely OP-it feels really weird asking a new potential friend "out". It's like dating! With kids though I genuinely don't think anyone thinks you're a weirdo for suggesting coffee. Go for it!!

kenicko Wed 28-Sep-16 22:29:23

Do it, see if anyone fancies a coffee don't be put off if they say no, they may be busy/tired etc

Next time try with someone else. Took me a while but now have some good friends

user1474439326 Wed 28-Sep-16 22:36:48

Swimming is tomorrow I'll try and pluck up courage!! Will report back!

user1474439326 Thu 29-Sep-16 10:58:03

She wasn't there this week. :-/

hutchblue Thu 29-Sep-16 11:05:22

There are a few apps you could try out?

Mush and HelloMamas are the two I think of. Mummysocial as well.

I never used any of them as they weren't around when mine were little but it could be worth signing up with them and see if anyone is on them too close to you.

They connect Mums with babies/toddlers who are stuck at home and bored witless. Oh yes, I remember it well.. So lonely back then at times.

Yeah and just ask other Mums when you're out and about, "shall I take your number, maybe we could have a coffee next week" or something like that.

I was always so thrilled to be asked. So dumb that I rarely ever did it myself. We are all so fearful of rejection - but really, what have you got to lose! So many others feeling lonely out there too and wishing to be asked.

So if I had my time over again, I'd probably just ask everyone. Ha! smile

user1474439326 Thu 29-Sep-16 15:54:35

Yeah I've tried a few apps and get chatting to people but meeting hasn't happened yet!
Thanks all I'm just gonna go gung ho! X

na5ima Thu 06-Oct-16 19:46:06

I'm the same hun. I didn't know what nct was so I didn't bother and now I have a 16m DS and I have no friends to go coffee morning or anything..
I work mon-wed and my Thursday and Friday end up being a boring day.. feel a lil sad at times but hey..

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