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feeling really depressed 2day jus wen i think things are looking up everything fucks up again

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missxvamp · 13/12/2008 18:17

well i fort things were improving i hav looked into debt management but they want upfront payment of 100 quid also i think ill b worse of nyway. the probs with waste collections getting worse my garden looks a tip im trying to get sum help wit this but cant find ny n no family member will offer 2 help so thats all gettingg out of hand. i got personal probs going on atm wit my sis all she goes on about now is herself and her bf she doesnt help me in any way and i feel pushed away. im ending up crying and screaming and shouting at lots of times during the day which i know doesnt help but i ffeel so stressed. im due 2 giv birth in 2 month and nothings ready i hav asked 4 sum support of my gran but shes always 2 busy 4 me as is my sister. i do hav a homestart worker butttttttt once again shes 2 busy for me. my daughter whom is 16 months is driving me madddddddddddd i wish i cud jus hav a little break. the bumps dad still wants nothing 2 do wit us either he is 2 busy wit his other kids i feel im having a complete breakdown i wontttttt b able 2 cope wit 2 kids under 2. theres no wayyyy i can do it im already under so much pressure how is anything going 2 get better. weekends are awful im skint n we stay in all the tiime as the weather aint great, im always snapping at people. still hav no mates or nyfin and only ppl who do bother 2 tlk 2 me online end up being sad desperate pervs. i jus had enuff i really really have im 21 i shudnt be feeling thhis god dam way!!!

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ilove · 13/12/2008 18:20

Pardon?

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whoingodsnameami · 13/12/2008 18:22

Stop trying to do too much at once, go to the CAB to sort your debts out, the garden and everything else can wait, Sort your money out, then get ready for your baby, sort the rest when you are up to it.

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missxvamp · 13/12/2008 18:25

ilove y are u saying pardon? and it was CAB that i got in touch with they were called citezens buruea debt advice or sumthing. but the other stuff is also wats making me feel this way thats why i need it sorted i looked into gettin a skip but there sooooo expensive

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whoingodsnameami · 13/12/2008 18:30

Go back to the CAB, there are many other options, you need to go in and speak to someone personally, not phone them, but seriously, you will battle forever more trying to sort out everything in 1 go, the garden is not important, just leave it, nothing will overgrow in this weather, sort it out in the spring, drop everything except your debts, trust me, when you have you finances in order, the rest wont seem nearly as bad.

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missxvamp · 13/12/2008 18:43

i understand wat ur saying but its the rubbish situation i cant just leave it it wil get worse u c. nyway im sure things will seem better once the weekend over as this is my most depressing lonely time u c. i really need sum friends ill make another post. life can b very lonely wen u harldy c nyone and neverrrrrr socialise

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whoingodsnameami · 13/12/2008 18:44

Why will the garden get worse? do you mean your weekly refuge is not being collected?

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jollyoldstnickschick · 13/12/2008 18:51

phone the council miss vamp they are very good and will remove your rubbish free.

is it household stuff? like settees etc wherabouts are you?

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missxvamp · 13/12/2008 18:51

its collected every 2 weeks which haqs left me in a rite mess coz 4 sum reason i have loadsssssss of rubbish and my bin is full up but i have lots and lots of other bags of rubbish 2 and of course they dont take all that so when my bin does get empty its filled rite up agen wit all the seperate rubbish bags meaning thhen 4 a nother 2 weeks more and more bags of rubbish collect up and its a never ending cycle really and wat wit the bad weather and all some of the rubbish gets blown everywhere and my garden looks a rite state. council are coming 2 collect some household waste on the 18th but they wont take away any domestic waste. i hav asked ppl 2 please take me 2 a tip 2 get rid of the excess waste but no one will help i even spent a couple of hours on net 2day looking up ny ways of help n i cant find ny at all

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missxvamp · 13/12/2008 18:52

yes lol they are removing a setee and things like that but wont remove domestic waste and its getting worse and worse

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jollyoldstnickschick · 13/12/2008 18:53

on dustbin day go out erly and see if theres any room in other peoples bins and get someone to stand in your bin and crush it down.

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missxvamp · 13/12/2008 18:56

yes my gran sed that but i feel cheeky n i wud ask nxtdoor neighbor but im kinda scared of him lol n other ppl on my street are mostly elderly lol

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jollyoldstnickschick · 13/12/2008 18:59

you dont have to ask them so long as their bins still shut the refuse take them,dont be scared of your neighbour he wont bite (hopefully)re u in a council or housing ass? cos the council might help u clear up just as a one off

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missxvamp · 13/12/2008 19:04

im in a council house. anddd the reason my neighbor scares me is coz hes in wit a bad crowd i think and its dodgy there fore i really dnt like speaking 2 him lol. buttttt ill get up real early n fill other ppls bins if i have 2 lol

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TheButterflyEffect · 13/12/2008 19:24

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missxvamp · 13/12/2008 19:33

well ill look into the 2 bins matter i did look at applying but never saw nyfin bout 2 kids thing. it mentioned family wit ova 6 ppl lol

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lou33 · 13/12/2008 19:37

the council will usually come out to take away extra rubbish for a fee

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missxvamp · 13/12/2008 20:13

bloody hell they sound like twats thatspathetic wat they did grrrrr council are annoying aint they

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