Back story ... ExP and I split up about three months ago (though I only moved out a month ago). We have a DS; he's eight months old - pregnancy was something of a surprise; problems v much there before and the split was fairly amicable - things between us v relaxed and amicable now. However ...
I just started back at work after nine months' mat leave this week. I'm doing four-day weeks; Ds is at nursery 8am-5ish. The problem is this. Having started back at work, I'm already struggling with leaving dead on 4.45 every night. I asked ex-P on the phone tonight whether he might consider picking DS up once a fortnight, so I can stay late one night and crack on with stuff (hard to work at anight at home as I'm living with my sister and my computer is in my and DS's room). I work in a fairly senior/demanding media job; exP is a corporate lawyer. He said on the phone tonight that he didn't think he'd be able to commit to collecting DS once a fortnight (he'll already be picking him up every other Friday to have him for the weekend).
My question is this: is it reasonable for me to push this? I feel like DS is exP's son, and though he's living with me, it's fair for me to ask him to help out with the pick up, as I would if we were still together. recognise his job is demanding and it's hard for him to leave, but so is mine ... and just because I'm the woman and DS is resident with me, I don't think that means exP can renouce his responsibility entirely. What do you think? So confused by the split and swirling emotions that I'm not sure what's reasonable any more.
Sorry this is so long! All thoughts appreciated ...
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Ex-P and I both work. Is it reasonable for me to ask him to collect DS from nursery once a fortnight?
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LoveAndSqualor · 02/12/2008 23:09
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