DH and I are on a trial separation because of his temper. He left on Sunday afternoon and I am now having problems with DD1 (4.6) which I would really like some help with.
Before he left he told DD1 and DD2 (2.6) that 'nasty mummy wanted him to leave' - this is what DD1 told me he had said - he denies it (not sure who to believe tbh but can't see why she would say it if he hadn't). When I realised this is what she thought was happening we sat them down and just told them that Daddy was going to visit X for a while and would be back. Nothing unusual about this as he goes away quite often. I thought all would be well and they would be none the wiser - there have been no arguments or similar for them to pick up on at all and he will be back as he can't stay where he is for long.
DD1 now says she hates me, wants her daddy back, crying all the time etc. She won't speak to him on the phone apart from to say I have been hitting her (obv not the case). She says I am trying to split the family up ().DD2 seems OK.
What can I say to her? I have just said he has gone away for a while - he will be back in a week (although I would much rather he stayed away for much longer tbh). I guess she knows full well what is going on, I don't know what he said to her but he must have said something similar to what she told me he had said to cause this reaction.
I guess I just feel pretty bad atm. My DCs have been pushed, roughly handled, sworn at and worse and I don't want that for them. I guess they think this is the norm and that I am nasty for making their dad go away without good reason. I'm pretty sure there isn't a way to explain this to them and that only in time will they realise (possibly) that I did the right thing. I don't really care if my kids hate me for this, I just don't want them thinking this behaviour is OK. Most importantly how can I make this as easy as possible for them?
Sorry for the long rambling post. I have a babyDS too who is poorly and screaming at me as I type so this probably doesn't make much sense at all!
Thanks for any replies . No one else to ask about this.
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PleasePassTheJackDaniels · 11/11/2008 19:38
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