just pisses me off no friggin end !!!!!!!!!!!

[fawkeoff]

So EXp said to me on friday that he wanted to take the kids out today....just the 3 of them cos it's fathers day and he wants to spend it with them....was all for it, thought it would give me a few hours on my own to tidy/revise etc.....he told me he would be here for no later than half 11.....turns up around 12.45
I asked him where he was taking then.....nowhere he wantewd to stay at my home with them for the afternoon!!!!!!!!
"is this a fucking joke"
he asked me ehy i was annoyed............

because i told the kids they were going out
and i didnt see why he had to keep them here....he said he didnt have the car, he had the work van because he didnt have enough money for petrol........get back to square 1
"you had money last night to go out"
now i know i went out on friday but i had budgeted for my night out......i am not pleading poverty or asking people to borrow me money, i know it isnt my business where his money goes but i think he should be more careful with it when it comes to being able to make sure he has enough petrol to take the kids somewhere for the day!!!!!!!
I am getting sick of him trying to make me be the bad guy....he keeps asking me if im happy with our decision.,.........OH YES I AM!!!! sorry for the vent

[MrsWeasley]

oh fawkes I am not surprised you are angry.

Sounds like maybe he wanted to play "happy Families"

Has he gone or can he take them to the park for a bit to give you a few minutes to MN in peace!

[fawkeoff]

no he has gone now....i am just so sick of what he is doing.......i would not have gone as mad at him had he rang me and ASKED if he could come here and sit with the children...he is just a cop out....i reminded him that none of this was initially my doing....he opened the can of worms and i am happy with it now.......he keeps asking me where i have been, who im out with etc etc.......it's none of his business anymore, i dont ask him anything about his social or private life. i am not expecting him to not go out and have a social life either, but if he cant afford it and the kids are going to be second fiddle to his beer money then i am within my rights to tell him exactly how i feel about it......and he looks like a mess

[MrsWeasley]

next time tell him that you are going out so he cant stay and that if he doesnt arrange something the DC's will be coming with you and he will miss out.

[fawkeoff]

im gonna have to do summat...i dont want to be a cow, but there is no way i am going to be walked all over.....i reminded him that it was me that seems to be accomodating everything that he wants to do, and he cant keep having things all his own way. I have been the most reasonable person i possibly can be to him, and he does have the kids, but i just dont agree with the excuses as to why he couldnt take them out today......i mean how much would it have cost to take them to feed the ducks at the local lake????
He is treading on thin ice with me

[littlewoman]

He can't make you love him, but he can make you angry. His pissing about is just a way of still being able to sway your feelings, even though they aren't the feelings he wants from you. It's fairly typical behaviour when couples split up in a less than amicable way. Try not to show your anger, it will amuse him, and put your foot down with his nonsense. Try to keep it as businesslike as possible because then he can't misread the situation and mistake your anger / emotions as left over feelings for him.

[fawkeoff]

things have been much better since i last posted.....he is having both DC tonight and friday....going for a girly night out in wales next saturday WAHOOOOO!!!!!! feel better about things xx