I really am fed up with trying to get my dh to be amicable for the sake of the children! Feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall.
Cut long story short...exh texting me with his regrets of leaving, I cut him short saying no chance of reunion, he turns up at dd's school play with his girlfriend and starts communicating via solicitor with his access demands and threats to go to Court if he doesn't get what he wants!
HE has ignored my efforts to arrange a meeting so we can talk and clear the air and totally blanks me in front of the dd's when he picks them up....this really is having a bad affect on them again and I hate it. I hate him all over again, but I make every effort to speak to him in front of them for their sakes. I tried to tell him about the health of one of his dd's on one visit...he just turned his back on me, spoke to the dd's only and then drove away. I really could punch the f*ck out of him! He just doesn't get the impact this has on the dd's! I really don't care about his continued immaturity towards me but I draw the line at his behaviour in front of them!
He is claiming he wants more access and I prepared the dd's that they would be starting overnight stays again this coming visit (as I presumed this is what he wanted) but got worried because of no communication from him....text him to confirm and he declined! TELLING me when the overnights would next start and this would all be in next Solicitors letter! I have had to lie to my dd's now by thinking of some excuse why they cannot stay overnight! Ok, maybe I was wrong to presume but as the man is NOT speaking to me and just turns up for access I thought it wise to prepare them in case he expected this to just happen as a matter of course!
I have suggested mediation in my replies to his Sol but this seems to be avoided! Does anyone know if mediation helps with issues between you as a couple rather than as a family? I really don't think he has gotten over his feeling of guilt about leaving us and this keeps coming out every time he doesn't get his own way!
I can't see that he would enjoy all this tension and must see that this is harmful behaviour to the children? When we had 3 months of amicability, the children were happy and there were no problems, and access was progressing nicely but we have gone backwards again....he can't be that dumb not to see this surely? Aaaarrrrgggghhhhh!
I am desperate to make him realise the impact he has on the dd's....but don't know what else I can do!
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talie101 · 30/05/2008 12:02
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