This is obviously going to be a sensitive subject and I don't want to get into an argument with you so emailing is probably best. The thing is, since dd and I have been here, your mum hasn't picked up the phone to see how dd is, let alone to arrange to visit. I know she has seen her on Sundays when you have her, and if she is happy with this kind of arrangement, that's fine by me. I find it sad (for dd) that she won't have a proper relationship with one of her grandmas, but if that's your mum's attitude, then it's probably for the best.
I am not at fault here, I did everything to let your mum know she could see dd whenever she wanted to, she has chosen this route. This has been upsetting me and I find it pretty rude to be honest, but I'm not going to waste any more time on it. As far as I'm concerned now, your mum, by her actions, has chosen to see dd when you have access and that's it. The fact that she took the present for dd to your house, rather than ours, pretty much cemented things. I have no doubt that dd's birthday card will be delivered in the same way.
I want, as I'm sure you do, our daughter to be surrounded by people who love her completely and who don't put her several rungs down the ladder under [his ds]. Of course I completely understand how your mum feels about [his ds], and can appreciate how lucky both you and [his ds] are to have her in your lives. But dd already has a grandma who absolutely adores her above anyone else and who is a very important part of her life, in the same way [his ds] does with your mum. Your mum has let her issues with me (whatever they may be) come in the way of a proper relationship with her grandchild and that's fine, we just need to draw that line in the sand, accept it and move on.
My dad's wife won't acknowledge dd and I'm very happy about that, I don't want dd to have anyone in her life who is negative. As my dad says about [his wife], it's her loss. And, for your mum, it's also her loss, not dd's or mine. Given that your mum and I have never had a comfortable relationship, it took a lot for me to make the moves to reassure her that she was always welcome to visit dd and, as that has now been thrown back in my face, the offer no longer stands. Your mum is a great person who has done so much for you and for [his ds], but, in this instance, I'm afraid she is wrong.
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usgirls · 26/05/2008 23:01
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