When do you get lonely... ???

[maltesers]

Just curious to know when do other single parents get lonely. My worse times can be Sat or Sunday afternoon, if i am not meeting a friend or have a date. Also maybe in the evening .....even before my 7year old ds has gone to bed.. Its been 20 months now and just hope i dont have this for another 20 months... Do you believe if you want something enuf you will get it... Well. i want Mr Right big time ..... Miss the evening company and someone else to help pay the bills, cook, pick up kids, and just being there..

[mamalovesmojitos]

hi maltesers. i actually got a bit lonely tonight!

tho i'm usually good with my own company. and the last thing i want is a boyfriend...but i'm much more recently out of a relationship.

though i'm not a lone parent, i'm just marital status single. dds father will take her every second or so saturday night so i can meet my mates. or i beg them to come over to my house and drink wine when dd goes to sleep!

are you a sahm? i think that can be lonely, did it for yr and a half. in college now so i'm sick of talking to ppl by the time i get home!

[mamalovesmojitos]

hi maltesers. i actually got a bit lonely tonight!

tho i'm usually good with my own company. and the last thing i want is a boyfriend...but i'm much more recently out of a relationship.

though i'm not a lone parent, i'm just marital status single. dds father will take her every second or so saturday night so i can meet my mates. or i beg them to come over to my house and drink wine when dd goes to sleep!

are you a sahm? i think that can be lonely, did it for yr and a half. in college now so i'm sick of talking to ppl by the time i get home!

[PurpleOne]

I get lonely in the evenings. divorced single for 6 years now., tried dating sites, the whole shebang.

Even the walls don't respond to me now lol

[fairyfly]

Weekends, Bank Holidays, Christmas, Easter et al.

Not always but that is when it can hit me.

I sometimes, not often, get lonely when i have been out for the evening and i get in, it is so quiet after being in company. I have a wash, climb into bed and lie there wishing someone was just glad i was home.

I also feel lonely when i am surrounded with couples, even if it is family members, at meals or brief visits. Or when i have parents evenings, or official dealings. I miss the person that should be next to me, on my side.

When i hear a noise in the middle of the night, when something in the house breaks, when a light bulb needs changing, when a bill pops through the door, when i get a phone call saying my child is ill and needs picking up.

When i have not seen or heard from anyone for days on end and i am lost in a world of children and not adult company.

When i make dinner, especially Sunday lunch and my children and i play games, i miss that Adult that should be on the empty seat, witnessing what a joy my children are.

I love my own company, i love freedom and space. But i also love to know that somebody is thinking of me with my freedom and space and wants to check i am ok. My lonliness always stems from situations where i feel i have evaporated.

It is definitely a mind set thing though, if i am sad in my heart i feel it. If i am joyful then i dance and sing and read alone with optimism and gratitude.

[lostdad]

I don't get as lonely as I did. Must still be partly in the novelty stage, partly in the Thank God it's over' one and partly in the If I ever have another relationship shoot me again' one, too.

I go online a lot. I see a few friends, I visit family, exercise, work - anything to take my mind off things.

I keep my son's bedroom door shut because it upsets me so much to see it empty - when my ex left unexpectedly, she rather kindly left a toy my mother had bought him for Christmas in the middle of the floor.

So when do I feel lonely? In the evenings after it gets dark - as much a anything else all I want is a cuddle and some company.

God I sound like a sad, boring old fart!

[davidtennantsmistress]

I beleive if you want something enough then you can make it happen - but with love I think if you want it enough or badly enough it will never happen & any men you do meet will be put off.

It's only been 7 months for me - but I miss having someone asking how my day went, and the general banter. I do talk online to people but not the same as having soneone there. (even thou H was away constantly the last year we were together). When H is visiting DS, Inow go out most of the time - can't get my head around having someone staying in my house - so althou I want someone there not full time.

think FF has it all summed up tbh.

LD - not a boring old fart at all, just like th rest of us.

[allgonebellyup]

great post fairy fly

i also get the horrible lonely thing when you are sat there with a couple/family, and you are there on your own. i sometimes feel like the loneliest person when i am in the middle of a busy pub.

i also get the thing where you get in from a night out, and youre suddenly all alone and know you will wake up alone in the morning (no kids there either).

[allgonebellyup]

Also nobody ever asks how my day was, nobody ever asks how i am feeling, or do i even want a cup of tea.
i have nobody to go to parents evening with, and nobody to tell how dd and ds are doing at school.

God this is making me regret asking dh to leave, all over again.

But actually i LOVE having the kids and the house all to myself, watching what i want, having more money than ever (!), and not doing another adult's washing.

[wooga]

I feel lonely sometimes when surrounded by happy families when out with the kids-but then I remember that we probably appeared to be a happy family when I was able to get my exh to come out with us!
Sometimes when my ds (asd) has had a bad day and I've been upstairs in his room calming him and settling his fears, I would love to have someone to talk to and cuddle up to.
It hasn't been that long for me though-six months-and I'm enjoying the time to myself-am also busy sorting out my head-not really bothered about finding someone right now-enough on my plate!

[littlewoman]

Watching the kids open their Christmas presents. There's only one other person in the world who can appreciate my feelings as I watch their faces light up. Unfortunately, he can't be there, because I would stab him if he was
I do find Christmas a terribly sad occasion, in this respect.

[lostdad]

Have to say - I felt lonely the other day...when I opened the curtains and saw the snow.

My first thought was `I wonder what the look on my son's face would be when he sees it for the first time'...and then realised I would never know because I wasn't there.

[maltesers]

thnx 4 input guys... actually its got me on a downer.... oh well, just wondered any ways... thanks !!

[chocolatespiders]

Sundays - hate them

I like my own company but i would still like to meet someone aftter 3 years without even a snog

[allgonebellyup]

ditto christmas

and birthdays

and snow

[allgonebellyup]

and sundays

[goingbonkers]

Lost Dad - Your last post nearly made me cry!

I spent easter sunday at parents with all the family - parents, 2 married sisters and hubbies, (one has kids), etc. I left early as I was so miserable sitting in a house full of happy, in-love couples. I don't begrudge them their happiness and we are a really close family, but just to see a loving gesture pass between them makes me feel lonely and sad. I feel like a failure.

I do love my own space tho. It would just be nice to have an 'adult' chat on an evening while having a foot rub or a cuddle. I have friends round fairly often but it's intimacy I crave.

[tortoise]

Lonely right now. And quite often in the evenings lately.I want a cuddle.

FF summed it up perfectly.

LostDad your last post made me feel so sad.It must be really hard for you.

[maltesers]

yes . i know what you mean Goingbonkers !! Its the intimacy i miss and to know there is someone in the house who really cares for you and will protect you .....(I Wish !)

[goingbonkers]

I honestly don't feel like I need a man around, but they sometimes have their uses and it would be good to have a part time one that pops over for cuddles and make cups of tea etc! I really don't mind doing all the washing, cooking and cleaning. I'm not interested in money. I can even cope without sex. Just to feel that someone cares, someone is thinking about me, someone loves me, would be like hitting the jackpot and would make me feel complete.

[Leslaki]

Going bonkers - you're last post said it!!! DH left me and the kids on Mothers Day and I'm finidng it hard. Even foud ithard to come back on here as mostly alwasy posted n 'frivolous' threads - eg travel etc!!! Feeling lonley rite now but know I'll get there in the end!!!

[PurpleOne]

I've even been working the porn chat lines for a few months now...just to hear my phone ring FOR ME, and for people to talk to.
How sad is that?

Goingbonkers - yep I agree with that too!

Right now, I feel that nobody cares

[Xavielli]

I get lonely sometimes.

But, I just think to myself that its better to actually be alone and feel lonely than to be lonely as I was in my previous relationship.

[goingbonkers]

Leslaki - sorry to hear that. What a lovely day to decide to leave, so thoughtful. And you're right - you will get there in the end.

All my friends seem to be getting married at the moment and it's making me feel pretty miserable.

PurpleOne- we care. xxx Not quite the same, I know, but it's true!

[used2bthin]

I would like a part time man too I think, generally I am still in that phase of being relieved not to have the arguing etc too but I still feel a lot of guilt about it and although I have a supportive family and some good friends, when I've had a bad day or DD is ill or something, it would be nice to have someone here. Also when DD won't sleep, its somehow not so bad f someone is here to take turns with her.

[mogs0]

I only really feel lonely when I go to a party or wedding where I don't know many people.

I went to a wedding last year and only knew the bride and groom. It was a lovely wedding but I felt so out of place being on my own.

Also, I went to a party yesterday and, except for one other very confident lady, I was the only unattached person there. I couldn't wait to get out of there!!!